How To Be An INFJ

How To Be An INFJ

The INFJ personality is the rarest Myers-Briggs type. These unique butterflies comprise only 1% of the world’s population. Even to Carl Jung, who is widely considered to be the founder of the personality examination, INFJs are the “mysterious ones”. Few understand the complex beauty of an INFJ mind. Many are intrigued by its deep understanding, and intuition. It is extremely rare to meet an INFJ personality in person. Everyone, including myself, will confirm that this is a special moment. You are not just meeting anyone, you are meeting a rare gem. Rare, but extremely valuable Even though I am an INFJ myself, I have never met one in person. However, I am lucky that several of my closest friends are INFJs. We haven’t met in real life yet, but having a virtual INFJ friend can also be wonderful! Speaking through Skype, my INFJ friend and I admitted that we are “scared” of how we will react when we first meet. The meeting of two INFJs is the equivalent of winning a lottery two times in a row. Many INFJs I speak with on a daily basis have the same problem. Because we are people oriented, we act like a small colony of meerkats when we find each other. We cherish and protect one another. Quality over quantity best describes an INFJ meeting. ☺ What’s important to know about the INFJ personality? What’s crucial to understand about INFJs is that we know we are rare. We know that the majority of people don’t understand us. This is why we value our own company more than anything. However, we care deeply...
ISTJ Personality: The Loyal Logistician

ISTJ Personality: The Loyal Logistician

The ISTJ personality is the second most frequently occurring Myers-Briggs type. People with this personality tend to be loyal, logical, dependable, and faithful. I am not an ISTJ, however, one of my former bosses was. He was always the first to arrive at work, and the last to leave. I will never forget the image of him sitting alone in an empty office at 10 pm on a Friday. His dedication and reliability made me realize how gorgeous this personality really is! I admire how ISTJs always take responsibility for everything they do. It doesn’t matter whether the task is small or large, they are always there to lead the way. Their individualism and logic make them ideal leaders. Logic is the ISTJ way There are no assumptions with ISTJs. Their analytical skills are so precise, that when they set their mind to do something, it will be done. Period. Also, they don’t tolerate unnecessary facts, and don’t have patience with indecisive people. My former boss had this great quality, which I still admire to this day. ISTJs thrive when working alone, as do the majority of introverts. However, when their position enables them to have a positive impact, the magic begins. No stone will be left unturned when an ISTJ is seeking a solution. Their integrity and honesty is what makes all the difference. Integrity is their guiding star ISTJs value integrity above all else. This is that one trait that stands out among many other great ones. When an ISTJ makes a promise, it will be done, no questions asked. They will never break their promise. They push themselves beyond the...
INFJ: 6 brilliant answers to “Why are you so quiet”?

INFJ: 6 brilliant answers to “Why are you so quiet”?

  How many times have you heard this annoying, and utterly frustrating question: Why are you so quiet? Honestly, I stopped counting after a thousand. Every INFJ has heard this tiresome question many times in her/his life. It goes without saying that it makes us feel nauseous every single time. Sometimes we draw ourselves into an endless cycle of explanations, and justifications, but with no result. To some people, we will always be “the quiet one”. How we feel As introverts, we think before we speak. We carefully choose our words, and when to say them. Being INFJs, we are people oriented, so we always carefully choose our words so as not to hurt anyone. Our natural analytic nature means that our words are usually considerate, caring, and full of understanding. When we hear the “Why are you so quiet?” question, it triggers a chain reaction in our mind, making us doubt in ourselves. We start feeling that there is something wrong with us, that we are not “good enough”. Not to mention the feeling of guilt, which floods us because we feel that we should talk more. Let me share with you my example from a couple of years ago. Imagine this situation: I am standing in the corner of a large party, having my juice, and silently observing. All of a sudden more than 10 people surround me. Like a choir, they ask me that dreaded question, plus offer me drinks to “cheer me up”. When I reply, “I’m okay”, they don’t believe me. They start implying that I am actually bored. They ask, what I’m doing...
INFJ Relationships: 4 Steps To Deep Connection

INFJ Relationships: 4 Steps To Deep Connection

INFJ relationships can be tricky. We want deep, soul-shaking connection. But we don’t always know how to get there. Our personality consists of only 1 percent of the world population. We are rare, and not so easy to understand. Our rarity can be challenging, but it is also our greatest gift. We are unique, therefore we need a unique connection as well.☺ Establishing a lasting connection is a defining moment in our life. INFJ relationships are based on our magnificent ability to connect with our partners. The blueprint for connection in INFJ relationships is based on understanding. Not many people will be wired the same way we are. When we connect with someone, this truly is a magical moment for INFJs. Connection Surpasses Introversion or Extroversion My relationships were mostly directed towards extroverted women. I never asked myself why this is the case. I simply followed my intuition. One relationship in particular stands out. Six years ago I met someone who I thought was my soulmate. This was the first time I felt true love. What made this so special was the insanely good connection we had. We literally finished each other’s sentences. Never did I once pay attention to the fact that she is an extrovert. It didn’t matter. All that was important to me was that we understood each other. For the first time I told myself: “I can be vulnerable with this person, and not be afraid.” The relationship didn’t last, but I will never forget what we had. It didn’t matter that we had different personality types. It was that pure, authentic connection that mattered most. Here...
INFJ: I came, I saw, I made it awkward

INFJ: I came, I saw, I made it awkward

The annoying feeling of awkwardness is something INFJ’s are all too familiar with. We often feel awkward, because we can see something few others can see. We sense those hidden signals that no one else feels. This is a feeling I’m sure many of you can relate to. I am going to share with you my own awkward story. Not many people know what I am about to tell you. In other words, I feel completely “naked”, and exposed. So here goes. ☺ Young and awkward Throughout the entire high-school period, I was bullied. For me, every day was a fight for survival. I felt alone, didn’t know who to turn to. I would go to school crying, anxious, and afraid. My daily plan was merely to survive, and come home. One day, something happened that made me feel like the King of Awkwardness. Read The Full Article By Joining Our Free Private INFJ Forum >> Introvert’s Spring’s INFJ Forum INFJs rarely meet one another in the ‘real world’. Become an Introvert Spring INFJ and meet INFJs across the globe. Join our private forum and discuss INFJ problems, solutions, and idiosyncrasies. Start your own discussion topics or join a popular thread. You’ll also discover unique INFJ blog posts and infographics. Join The INFJ Forum Now – It’s Free!...