Feeling Down? 10 Ways Introverts Can Be Happier

Feeling Down? 10 Ways Introverts Can Be Happier

Have you been feeling down lately? You’re not alone. A lot of us introverts have a tendency toward melancholy. It’s not that we can’t be as happy as extroverts. But sometimes our busy, overthinking brain makes it difficult. Because guess what. We introverts are thinkers. Often, our thoughts quickly turn to worries, and our ideas turn to doubt. That’s not the only reason why you might be feeling down. The sneaky reason you’re feeling down There is another sneaky factor that makes introverts feel down, even when everything seems peachy around us. It’s what I like to call the overstimulation cycle. Here’s what it looks like: You go out, have ‘fun’, and stay busy because that’s what others tell you to do to have a productive and happy life. But when you do catch a moment of solitude after all your outing and abouting, you feel exhausted. And it doesn’t end there. You feel strangely empty, which makes no sense because you just did a bunch of social activities that were supposed to make you feel fulfilled. You think you’re feeling down because you aren’t doing, seeing, and socializing enough. So, you force yourself back out the door and into the very situations that are causing the void. If you can relate to the above scenario, you are like so many introverts who get caught up in an overstimulation cycle that leaves us feel down, and even depressed. I should know. Why I felt empty I used to constantly force myself into highly extroverted environments because I thought it would cure my nagging sense of loneliness. In high school and...
Top 7 Introverted Teen Problems (The Struggle is Real!)

Top 7 Introverted Teen Problems (The Struggle is Real!)

The teens are tough for anyone. But being an introverted teen comes with its own specific set of painful problems. There is the pain of wanting to belong, but instead, always feeling out of place . There is the absolute agony of always understanding, and never being understood. Then, of course, there is the confusion of having a personality that turns inward when everyone is pushing you to be more outgoing. As an introverted teen, you also struggle with the pain of constantly being forced into places (i.e. school) that highlight just how different you are. Isn’t it ironic that being quiet and observant is something that makes you stand out nowadays? You are the black crow in a crowded jungle of parakeets. You are simultaneously ignored and singled out for your quiet nature. So, yeah, being an introverted teen isn’t easy. Hopefully, today’s article will help you see that you’re not alone, even if you desperately want to be. Here are 7 introverted teen problems that show that the struggle is real for young introverts: 1. Pretending to be immature to fit in. As an introverted teen, you tend to be more introspective and reflective than many of your friends. While others focus on the superficial, you think and feel deeply. Basically, you are an old soul in a teen body. This isn’t exactly the norm in your high school, so you force yourself to be more superficial and fun. You act immature so that you don’t get called out for that weird inner Yoda thing you’ve got going on. Here’s my simple advice for you: A wise one...
10 Things an Introvert Wishes She’d Known Sooner

10 Things an Introvert Wishes She’d Known Sooner

The introverts of our generation have been led astray in many ways. There are about a bazillion (approximately) things the average introvert coulda-shoulda-woulda done differently if we weren’t raised in such an extrovert obsessed culture. In fact, one of the comments I get most from introvert readers is “I wish I’d understood my introversion sooner — my life would have been so different!”. Now that the world is starting to see the power of introverts, we are coming home to our introversion, and living with fewer regrets. Still, many introverts continue to hover in a purgatory of confusion and guilt about our personality. Hopefully, the below list will help you see your way through the fog, and live life on your own blissfully introverted terms. Here are 10 things I wish I’d known sooner as an introvert: 1) Busyness is not a virtue. I wish someone had told little innie me that busyness is not a virtue. It’s a lifestyle choice. For me, it was a fruitless one. It’s okay to leave empty spaces in your day. In fact, adding some nothingness to your day is productive because it reduces angry grumpy thoughts and increases your overall awesomeness. 2) Stop viewing yourself through a distorted lens. Some people are going to think you’re weird, or snobby, or sad because you’re a daydreamer and solitude seeker. Don’t give into the pressure to view yourself through their distorted lens. Embrace and love the true you, and one day the right people will see you in all your gloriously strange splendour. 3) As an introvert, fewer friends is more fulfilling. Popularity is overrated. Focus on the...
Could you be an ambivert?

Could you be an ambivert?

Introvert, or extrovert? That is the question … or is it? For years now, I’ve talked ad nauseum about introversion, and how it differs from extroversion. Meanwhile, I’ve neglected an entire personality type: The mysterious “ambivert”. What the heck is an ambivert? If you’re thinking “ambit-what?”, don’t worry, you’re not the only one who is confused by this term. An ambivert, which is the personality type right smack dab in the middle between an introvert and an extrovert, is an anomaly to most of us. We imagine some strange cross between Bill Clinton and Keannu Reeves. This mix n’match concoction of a person looks like any other human, but really they are a hybrid. They have an extrovert’s nose, an introvert’s eyes, an extrovert’s femur, an introvert’s right tendon … Of course, the above picture is far from accurate. Outward physical characteristics don’t determine whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert. Identical twins can fall on vastly different sections of the personality spectrum. To answer what does make an ambivert different than an innie or outie, I think it’s important to get back to the basics. Introvert vs. extrovert 101 An introvert is someone who gains energy from being alone, and loses energy in stimulating environments, such as social situations. An extrovert is someone who is energized by being out and about and socializing.There are several traits associated with being an introvert or extrovert. Introvert – often quiet – tends to speak more slowly – drained by crowds, busy environments, loud noises – enjoys solitude – hates small talk – hates the phone Extrovert – talkative – can keep...
How To Spot an Introvert

How To Spot an Introvert

Have you ever wondered where all the other introverts are hiding? Since introverts often disguise ourselves as extroverts, it can be hard to spot us. Another reason we’re so elusive is that we often purposely go under the radar, choosing to stay quiet instead of shouting for attention. In case you’re on an introvert hunt, I’ve put together 5 surefire ways to spot an introvert: They avoid the group They speak slowly They are inconsistent when it comes to socializing They never want to talk on the phone They enjoy being alone Watch the above video for a more detailed explanation. If you notice any of these signs, chances are, you’ve spotted an introvert. Don’t be surprised if you already have many innies in your life. We’re everywhere! 😉...
9 Superpowers of the Highly Sensitive Person

9 Superpowers of the Highly Sensitive Person

Have you ever been told you’re “overly sensitive”? If you’re a highly sensitive person like me, you’ve probably heard these hurtful words more times than you can count. As a highly sensitive person, you also know what it’s like to feel the emotions of others so deeply that it hurts. Or get so overwhelmed by crowds, loud noises, and strong smells that you want to hide out under a blanket all day. People constantly tell you to “toughen up” and “grow a thicker skin”. They believe that being thin-skinned in our abrasive world is a liability. But here’s the thing. Being highly sensitive, you also have subtle superpowers that the more calloused among us don’t get to enjoy. In other words, your sensitivity is actually your greatest strength. Read on to discover 9 secret superpowers of the highly sensitive person. Superpowers of the Highly Sensitive Person 1. You find strength in solitude. The ability to spend time alone and actually enjoy it is a virtue. Being content in solitude means that you don’t waste time and money on useless distractions and superficial friendships. You don’t need to constantly be around people to feel fulfilled. You find happiness and strength in quiet moments when you can reflect and recharge. 2. You understand the importance of pacing. Have you ever heard the story of the tortoise and the hare? The hare looses the race because he doesn’t know how to pace himself. This tried and true metaphor perfectly illustrates why the highly sensitive person has an advantage in life. Your sensitivity forces you to slow down, which leads to fewer wrong...