dating introverted women

Dating as an introverted woman has its own unique challenges.

You might feel clueless about how to flirt. Perhaps, you’re also self-conscious about your quiet nature, believing that only bubbly extroverted women get the guys.

Your thoughts run wild

Even though you’re quiet on the outside, your mind is anything but. Dating becomes a mental version of Cirque du Soleil. Your thoughts do flips, bouncing from one imaginary scenario to the next.

Your fantasies, expectations, judgments, and fears run wild. Meanwhile, you feel completely frozen on the outside. I know exactly what you’re going through, dearest.

Can quiet be sexy?

I spent most of my teens and early twenties feeling like an unattractive wallflower, who never gets the guy. The irony is that I’ve always known that men found me attractive on the outside, but something about my personality seemed to deter them. I was too quiet, too closed off, too awkward.

Knowing that I was pretty on the outside, but seemingly had an ugly personality really hurt. Thankfully, I realized that my bad luck with men had nothing to do with my quietness or my introversion. Allow me to explain with a quick story.

From heartbreak to a PhD in dating

About five years ago I went through a painful breakup. The split left me feeling worthless, and unattractive. Still reeling and desperate, I stumbled upon an article that told me that I should accept a date with anyone who asked. And guess what.

I actually did it! Since that time, I have gone on well over 100 first dates (just dates, not “hooking up”). I’ve also consulted with top dating coaches, and written a book on introverted charisma, intimacy, and dating. One of my friends joked that I have my “PhD in dating” and I would have to agree!

How to feel more relaxed, and open on a date

I put some of my best advice into my First Date Checklist For Introverted Women. You’ll discover the exact steps to relax, connect with your sensuality, and be more open on a first date.

It’s the perfect resource to help you reveal your inner irresistible, even if you are quiet and don’t know the first thing about flirting.

Get The First Date Checklist For Introverted Women Now

Lots of love,


Michaela Chung