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A WHOSA-WHATSA-VERT?

What is an introvert?

Introverts gain energy by being alone. Stimulating environments and social situations are draining for introverts. We can only handle so much before we MUST restore ourselves in solitude.

This is where many people are confused about introversion. It’s not about wanting to avoid people because of shyness, or sadness. Introverts NEED to spend time alone to feel at our best. Plain and simple.

In contrast, extroverts are energized by socializing. They get a buzz from the very activities that overwhelm introverts. When extroverts spend too much time alone, they feel bored and depleted.

Neither personality type is superior, we simply have different needs.

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INFJam

I’ve decided to host a monthly live webinar just for INFJs. These interactive “INFJams” will take place the first Tuesday of every month. They will give INFJs the chance to: Interact with other INFJs in the live chat box Receive insights and actionable steps to overcome your biggest challenges Ask questions and share your experiences in the chat box Leave feeling pretty dam good about yourself! This month’s Feb. 2nd webinar I’ll be chatting with INFJ journalist, Cynthia Liza Gregoire, about the ultimate INFJ dilemma: play it safe in a job that drains, or risk going after your dreams. Cynthia and I have done both. Register For This Month’s INFJam Now (It’s F.R.E.E!) We’ll share some strategies for each approach. We’ll also give you plenty of opportunities to join the discussion in the chat box. These Jams will have an informal and interactive vibe. Think of it more as a live forum than a formal webinar. Here are the details on this month’s INFJam: When: Tuesday, Feb. 2nd @ 10 am PACIFIC Where: Go here to register What: Discuss the dilemma of whether to play it safe or go after your dreams as an INFJ. We’ll be offering strategies for both approaches. We are so excited to meet you all in the live webinar room. Hope you can join us! Xo, P.S. Did you know Introvert Spring has a free private forum just for INFJs? Go here to learn more.... read more

Introvert: When your mind turns against you

Let’s talk about a situation that makes a lot of introverts hate themselves. This particular scenario used to happen to me a lot when I was around extroverts. It can happen anywhere, but let’s just say you’re are at a bar: You go in feeling pretty good about yourself. You know bars aren’t really your scene, but you’re with your friends, and you have some liquid courage on hand. Then you start to feel tired. As your energy plummets, everything around you picks up speed. More people show up. The music gets louder. All of a sudden, new people are sitting at your table with your friends. This is when it begins. No matter how much you will yourself to “be cool”, “chill out” and “have fun”, your mind will not oblige. This makes you feel like the bad guy. After all, your friends invited you out expecting you to join in their fun. No one likes a party pooper. But you can’t help but sulk. Then your sulking turns to shame. Before you know it, you’re comparing yourself to the jovial extroverts at your table. The little troll in your mind points out how much better they are than you in every way. They are friendlier, prettier, more articulate, more likeable. Then the troll turns his bony finger at you and asks, “Why would anyone like you? You’re so boring and uncool. Everyone can tell you don’t belong here. What’s wrong with you?” The troll is most vicious when you are tired, or outside your comfort zone. In this particular scenario, you have both circumstances working against you. The... read more

6 Things Extroverts Do That Introverts Will Never Understand

We’re always talking about how it’s hard for extroverts to understand introverts. But let’s face it, some things that extroverts do can be pretty perplexing. Let’s explore a few of them, shall we? 1. Oversharing Now this is a big one. Introverts don’t get how extroverts can have so much to say about the most mundane topics. I first noticed this as an introverted teen. The popular girls were always talking stream of consciousness style with no filter. Their algorithm for interesting conversation was a complete mystery to me. Topics ranged from boys, to beauty, to the special care instructions for their new naval rings (Brittany Spears had just come on the scene in all her naval baring glory). To me, many of the details they divulged seemed like overkill. For instance, one girl might share the step-by-step process of her latest hair removal experience. “It’s, like, this thick cream, and I dunno, you just, like, spread it on really thick and leave it for a while. It really stinks, but it lasts longer than shaving. You know what I mean?” I knew what she meant, but I couldn’t understand how a detailed description of hair removal was appropriate lunchtime conversation. Still don’t. 2. Travelling in packs Why do extroverts always have to make it a group thing? More is not always merrier. I know this for a fact. Part of me gets the desire to have your peeps around you. It’s nice to feel the animal warmth of your family and dear friends. But a lot of extroverts take it to the extreme. They go to the bathroom... read more

Introvert – I’m somewhere, but not here

“She’s never where she is … she’s only inside her head.” Janet Fitch We introverts love to wander. Our favorite destination for our quiet explorations is our imagination. No matter where we are, we feel called away by our own thoughts. The words of Anaïs Nin come to mind: “I’m restless. Things are calling me away. My hair is being pulled by the stars again.” We grow restless in the here and now, so we let our imagination kidnap us for a while. We dim the front porch lights and go on a fantasy adventure. On the outside we look “zoned out”. Inside, we are bursting with bright ideas and dreams, like an internal festival of lights. It feels good to wander the deep forests of our imagination. Sometimes, it’s a necessary coping mechanism. Going inside our head helps us avoid overstimulation. We might be in a crowded place, full of offensive sounds and odours. We zone out to escape the chaos. Another reason we go mind wandering is because we are bored. Maybe, we’re in the middle of a conversation that is about as exciting as watching snails race. So, we check out. It’s easy for introverts to live our whole life this way, half in the world, half out. In her monstrously famous book Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert recalls the way a friend once described her introverted father. “Your father only has one foot on this earth. And really, really long legs …” I chuckled as I read this, because it reminded me of my own introverted father. Then I (reluctantly) realized that I truly am... read more

The PERFECT Way For Introverts To Spend New Year’s Eve

New Year’s Eve is not a day I look forward to. For good reason. I’ve had some pretty terrible ones. I’ve noticed that the more I try to make it Awesome!! Epic!! or anything else that ends in an explanation point, the worse it is. New Year’s Eve truly is an extrovert’s holiday. It’s big bright lights, crowds, and shiny things. It literally screams anti-introvert. But of course, it doesn’t have to be that way. We can make New Year’s look any way we want it to. While extroverts choose to look out toward the next thrill on this day, introverts crave a different approach. At least this introvert does. I want to spend the last day of 2015 looking IN. I’ve already gotten started with some journalling this morning. I wrote an “In 2016 I’m Grateful That …” entry. I imagine that I’m waking up on a typical day in 2016 and I’m writing down all the things that I love about my life. Here are some of the things I wrote: In 2016 I’m grateful that … “I wake up each day feeling happy, purposeful and excited for the day ahead.” “I’m surrounded by people who love me in a way that feels good, and I love them well, too.” “My dreams of being “internet famous” and reaching millions of introverts world wide have come true! And it feels like connection, fun, peace. It feels like this is MY life, and it is exactly how I want it to be.” Notice how I focused a lot on feelings. This exercise works best if you climb inside the... read more

31 Ways To Own Your Introversion (On My 31st Birthday!)

I do this really annoying thing whenever someone asks me how old I am. I say, “I’m ageless”. It’s my cheeky way of avoiding the question. It has nothing to do with what they think of me, and everything to do with how I think of myself. I want to forget my age, and all of the expectations and stereotypes attached to it. And yet … Here I am announcing to the hundreds of thousands of introverts who visit my blog every month that I am thirty-one. 31-31-31-31-31-31. Maybe if I say it enough, it will lose its meaning. I’ll let go of the idea that 31 has to be a certain way. I’ve done this before. Releasing Introvert Myths I let go of the idea that an introvert has to look, act, sound, be a certain way. I let solitude change shape. Alone became a castle of comfort instead of a sign of inadequacy. I looked my true personality straight in the eye, and let all the myths dissolve. The myth of not enough. Of too quiet. Of I-will-be-worthy-when-I-tick-all-the-boxes-and-fulfill-expectations. When all of that melted away, my life began. Before, I was living someone else’s life. Being an introvert, I know I can come off as selfish sometimes. I probably am. But sometimes what seems like selfishness is something else. It’s the desire to be in full possession of myself. To own my body, my energy, my mind. To be master of my time, even if it runs out too quickly, or drags along slow as snails. I want to know that my life is my own, that I’m... read more

The 12 Gifts Of Introversion

This is the time of year when gift-giving is at the top of everyone’s mind. Luckily for us innies, we already have several introvert gifts. And I don’t mean the kind you buy at the store. Modest introverts might never admit it, but our innate strengths are a gift to the world. Since our finer qualities are often overlooked, I’ve created a new introvert infographic to celebrate the 12 gifts of introversion. 1. Creativity Embracing solitude and reflection helps introverts to access their innermost thoughts and creative ideas. 2. Observation As outsiders, introverts often notice subtleties that those who follow the crowd miss. 3. Live with less Extravagance is an extrovert’s game. Introverts enjoy a paired down existence with fewer friends, and personal belongings. 4. Loyalty Introverts are known for being fiercely loyal to the few people they let into their inner circle. 5. Easily entertained Introverts are rarely bored alone. We find endless entertainment in our own imagination. 6. Deep Thinkers Introverts tend to carefully think things through before acting, which often prevents negative outcomes. 7. Loved by landlords Have you ever seen an ad looking for a loudmouthed tenant who likes to party? Quiet introverts are a landlord’s dream. 8. Listening Introverts embody the old adage “you have two ears and one mouth for a reason”. Everyone likes to be listened to. 9. Focus Introverts are able to maintain intense focus for long stretches as they work alone on a project or passion. 10. Introspection An introvert’s love of looking inward helps him to continuously learn and grow. 11. Word economy While others fill every inch of airspace with... read more

Free Introvert Party Survival Guide

Introverts aren’t known for being party people. What we are known for is being “party poppers”. We are the ones who leave early, or don’t show up at all. Or we show up ready to mix and mingle, only to find that we run out of social juice within the first half hour. Then what? Most introverts will withdraw into our own world in order to protect our energy. There is a good reason why we introverts like to live inside our head. It feels safe there. We can quietly observe, and ponder what’s going on around us, without having to say anything. Talking, after all, is draining for introverts. Listening, too. And therein lies the problem with parties. Usually, there is a whole lot of talking going on. Not only that. The atmosphere at most parties is noisy and busy. All that outer stimulation makes introverts want to turn inward even more. This can be frustrating for social introverts who want to connect with people, but only have so much juice in our social batteries to work with. We are like introverted Cinderellas. Our energy seems to turn to dust at a certain hour. Except usually our party persona expires long before midnight. Luckily, there are ways that we can survive even the most dreaded parties. Best of all, we don’t have to “cure” our introversion, or fake being extroverted to do so. I’ve put together some essentials to help get you through any party. Access them now by downloading my new free ebook, 7 Steps To Introvert Party Survival. DOWNLOAD MY NEW FREE EBOOK – 7 STEPS FOR... read more

Why Introverts are Better With Money

Introverts focus a lot on how we can get along in an extroverted world. A lot of the time, when we do this, we talk about introversion as if it is somehow less than extroversion or as if it is a shortcoming. It isn’t! There are many advantages to being an introvert. One of them is that we tend to be much better at managing our money than people who are extroverted.  Want some examples of how this is true? Here you go! Introverts Are Cautious Researchers Introverts are readers and thinkers and, most importantly, researchers. We aren’t afraid to take our time to really look for a good deal. This isn’t limited to making sure we get the best deal on our breakfast cereal. We make sure to thoroughly check out the prices for everything from said cereal to our utilities. For example, those of us who live in deregulated energy markets will go through every single detail, researching the best deal for our cost related to the energy bill, click here to learn more about deregulated energy (that link is for Alberta residents but there are sites for most any city within a deregulated energy market). We’ll also compare healthcare providers and insurance rates. Along with making sure that our money is going to good causes. Introverts Make Decisions Slowly In addition to taking the time to research the facts behind our decisions, we are also more likely than our spontaneous extroverted friends, to take the time to weigh the consequences of each decision we make before we make it. Some claim that this makes us “worriers”... read more

Are introverts smarter than extroverts?

I talk a lot about the fact that introverts are reflective, introspective and creative. There is no denying that introverts have beautiful minds. But the question is, are introverts smarter than extroverts? To answer that, we must first address the fact that introverts and extroverts have different stuff going on upstairs. Introvert brain vs. extrovert brain First of all, the brains of introverts and extroverts have different levels of activation. Extroverts have a lower level of activation, causing them to seek out higher levels of stimulation to feel alert, and at their best. This is why extroverts tend to be more social. They are also drawn to risk-taking activities. Meanwhile, introverts are more risk-averse and contemplative. Since introverts need less stimulation to feel engaged, we prefer low-key activities, such as reading, reflecting, or having coffee with a close friend. Sometimes, we might need an extra jolt of stimulation after a long period of solitude. But we’ll usually crave quiet comforts much sooner and more frequently than extroverts. Why introverts think more There is another reason our brain urges us toward quiet, contemplative activities. A 2013 study by Randy Buckner of Harvard University found evidence that introverts have more gray matter in our prefrontal cortex. Since this is the part of the brain associated with abstract thinking and decision making, it makes sense that introverts like to think things through before acting. While our love of deep contemplation is often helpful, it can also be a hindrance, pulling us away from the present moment, and into the vortex of our own cyclical thoughts. Sometimes these thoughts swirl out of control.... read more
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