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What is an introvert?

Introverts gain energy by being alone. Stimulating environments and social situations are draining for introverts. We can only handle so much before we MUST restore ourselves in solitude.

This is where many people are confused about introversion. It’s not about wanting to avoid people because of shyness, or sadness. Introverts NEED to spend time alone to feel at our best. Plain and simple.

In contrast, extroverts are energized by socializing. They get a buzz from the very activities that overwhelm introverts. When extroverts spend too much time alone, they feel bored and depleted.

Neither personality type is superior, we simply have different needs.

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5 Biggest Pet Peeves Of An Introvert

Introverts are annoyed by a lot of the things that extroverts get all giddy about. This can lead others to believe that we are “party poppers” who are hard to please. Really, we just feel bent out of shape from trying to conform to the extrovert ideal all the time. So many social norms and pleasantries are based on extrovert preferences: small talk, party etiquette, “appropriate” group behaviour. Can you blame us for feeling cranky sometimes? It’s natural for introverts to develop a few (or a few hundred) pet peeves . Most of the time, we stay quiet about our mini resentments. But every so often it feels good to vent. So, that’s exactly what I intend to do in this post. Here they are for your reading pleasure, and my venting pleasure –  the 5 biggest introvert pet peeves: 1. People commenting on our quietness. Yes, introverts are quiet. We are all aware of this by now. Unfortunately, some people are determined to point out the obvious. They look at us with tilted heads, and say, “you’re quiet.” If we’re lucky, they’ll leave it at that. If we’re not, they’ll continue by saying, “what’s wrong,” or “why are you so serious,” or “are you mad at me?” All of which are just as irritating, especially when we were perfectly content in our quiet state. Emphasis on the were. Comments on our quietness make us feel self-conscious. When people point out our silence, we feel like a foreign specimen under a microscope. Ever noticed how little single-celled organisms say? Never heard anyone point that out. I could write an... read more

What Is An INFJ Infographic

A New Place For INFJs It can be lonely being the rarest personality type in the world – but it doesn’t have to be. Join our community, and feel connected to other INFJs who get you. Join the private Introvert Spring INFJ Forum and gain immediate access to INFJ articles, INFJ cartoons, and discussions on all things INFJ. You even have the opportunity to create your own blog posts and images to share with our community. Learn More About The New Private INFJ... read more

The Art Of The Introvert Retreat

Being an introvert in an extrovert’s world is exhausting. It feels a lot like running through thick mud. The faster we try to go, the more stuck we get. Before we know it, we’re knee deep in the brown stuff with no escape in sight. Ironically, one of the most effective ways to move forward as an introvert is to retreat. Although, people usually think of a retreat as a getaway lasting at least two days, the key aspect of a retreat is simply to withdraw. For introverts, this could mean withdrawing into nature, or simply into our room. We might also step back from our usual social circles so that we can reconnect with our inner voice. Energy healer and friend Alexa Linton points out that self-care practices, such as retreats, are not just for special occasions. “It’s not like we can only make time for ourselves once a month and that will be enough,” she explains. “It’s like adding kindling to a fire. We need to incorporate weekly and daily restorative practices into our lives.” Having a morning ritual of drinking our tea in quiet is a great way for introverts to add a mini retreat to our day. Other ideas include: Going for a walk in nature Watching animals (research has shown this reduces stress) Bringing our full attention to eating a good meal Journalling Reading for pure pleasure Any kind of creative expression, such as photography, writing, drawing, or dancing Meditating A Retreat For The Mind Often, removing the excess in our routines is even more effective than any addition would be. Cutting back on... read more

The Ultimate Introvert’s Dilemma In Relationships

The two most common fears people have in relationships are engulfment and abandonment. Usually, it is one or the other. We fear being swallowed up by another, dissolving into the relationship. Or we fear the opposite. We are terrified of being left behind. The introvert’s dilemma in relationships is that we often feel both fears deeply. We are on constant guard against the threat of being overwhelmed by others. And yet, we are afraid that our true personality will scare people away. Our worst fear is that we are too easy to leave. Which means we are too hard to love. It is as if we are afraid of the sun, and afraid of the sun setting. I wrote a poem about this the other day: Fear of the sun And fear of the sun setting Engulfment Abandonment The sun’s rays reach for me But the once welcome warmth Now burns The moon in all its glowing mystery Can’t be trusted It calls to the stars in the dark Circles the world Like a predator its prey It shows you a sliver Then disappears for days You’re Smothering Me For sensitive introverts who are prone to energy drain, relationships can feel like swimming in a tsunami. The tidal wave of emotions, the silent fears, the rush of hormones, the sheer weight of someone else’s expectations – it can all be too much. Whenever I think of one of my extroverted exes, a particular image comes to mind. I imagine that I am a little blue bird in the palm of his hands. He is trying to show me affection, but... read more

6 Signs You’re An Extroverted Introvert

If you’re an extroverted introvert like me, you know how confusing this is for people. Everyone expects an introvert to be shy and reclusive. And we can be, but extroverted introverts also like to get out there and mix ‘n mingle. When we’re “on”, we are sociable, and friendly. When we’re “off”, we hurry home to recharge in solitude. Even though we spend way more time introverting than following the crowd, people only see our outgoing side. They don’t realize that our social batteries are drained very quickly. Those who don’t know us well are puzzled by our behaviour. If they are around to see us go from fully charged, to depleted, they will usually think one of three things: a) Something has happened to make us sad or mad, and it is their duty to fix things by commanding us to “smile”, and “stop being a party pooper”. b) They think we hate them, or that they have deeply offended us in some way. c) We are silently judging them and the verdict is not good. It’s not just the people around us that are confused. We are just as perplexed by our own behaviour. We didn’t even know there was such a thing as an extroverted introvert. That’s why I’ve put together 6 signs that you are an extroverted introvert. 1. You need alone time before and after socializing. Your social energy has an expiry date. Ample alone time before and after social spurts helps you to recharge. If you don’t have enough time to yourself between activities, you feel irritable, exhausted, and sometimes even depressed. 2.... read more

Introvert: Is Your Extrovert Making You Sick?

Many introverts find fun and friendship in the company of extroverts. We have extroverted family members, colleagues, friends and partners. We might love the extroverts in our lives – or at the very least, lovingly tolerate them. As much as we appreciate our extroverts, spending time with them can have a troubling side-effect. You might have noticed that conversations with your outie leave your brain buzzing and unsettled. Or perhaps you’ve come down with a familiar tickle in your throat after trying to keep up with a social butterfly friend. Why your extrovert makes you sick They mean well, they really do. But our extroverts operate at a different pace than us. They are like busy worker bees hungrily moving from flower to flower, task to task, person to person, in search of fulfillment. We draw our life force from ourselves. The extrovert’s way leaves us sick and tired. Our body has many ways of telling us things that our mind wants to ignore. Could it be that our sore throat is a symptom of the suppression of our voice? In my teens and early twenties, I got colds a lot. More often, I would get a swollen throat that never evolved into a full-blown cold. Looking back, I can clearly see that this was a side-effect of my struggle to keep up with the extroverts in my life. I had no idea how to use my voice to set boundaries, and speak my innie truth. Instead, I would stay quiet, and try to adjust to the extrovert ideal. I’ll be the first to say that quietness is okay,... read more

The Best Job For An Introvert

I’m often asked “what is the best job for an introvert?” To answer that, let’s begin with what is NOT the best job for an introvert: Wanted: Outgoing multitasker with superior communication skills, a team attitude and a love for working with people. The ideal candidate will have at least 5 years experience working in a fast-paced customer service environment. Leadership skills are a plus, but not required. Entry level wages. If you’ve ever searched for work for any length of time, the above job description probably sounds familiar. You looked for jobs that called for introverted singletaskers who love working alone, but there weren’t any. Unless you work in a technical or artistic field, introvert friendly jobs are hard to find. Even jobs that are typically seen as introverted, such as IT jobs, often hire and evaluate employees with the extrovert ideal in mind. One of the saddest aspects of living in an extrovert obsessed society is that the world misses out on all the gifts introverts have to offer. The best job for an introvert is one that draws upon the below innie strengths. Single-Taskers After years of exalting multitasking as the ultimate form of productivity, researchers are now finding that single-tasking introverts had it right all along. A Stanford Study found that people who are media multitaskers do not pay attention, control their memory or switch from one job to another as well as those who complete one task at a time. In other words, multasking decreases productivity. An introvert’s focused approach is better for the brain and the bottom line. Solitude seekers In a world... read more

STAGE FRIGHT! Can Introverts Handle The Spotlight?

Most people believe that introverts only feel comfortable in our shells. They think that the spotlight is reserved for outgoing extroverts who can handle having all eyes on them. “Of course, extroverts would make better public speakers, actors, comedians, and performers,” they say with certainty. “Introverts are too shy to do any of that.” They are wrong. There is a very long list of famous introverts who flourish in the spotlight: Barbara Walters, Al Gore, Barack Obama, Keanu Reeves, Emma Watson, Julia Roberts, Amy Schumer (yes, it’s true!) – just to name a few. Why introverts make great actors and orators Before they became celebrities, famous introverts were just quirky kids who lived inside their stories, and made speeches to their stuffed animals. Later, they were the ones who would skip a party to practice a speech. Or stay up all hours to perfect a dance choreography. Introverted excellence – whether that be in the spotlight, or the lamplight – is usually the result of solitary obsession. People tend to forget that comedians spend a lot of time observing, and thinking to come up with their jokes. Their time in front of the crowd is brief compared to the countless hours they devote to lonely preparation. The same principle applies to actors, orators, dancers and other performers. They spend far more time preparing behind the scenes than they do in the spotlight. Then they must simply cultivate the courage to take their skills to the stage. Introverted Courage Fortunately, extroverts don’t have a monopoly on courage. Even us quiet types can be brave as lions. We, too, can muster... read more

NEW WEBINAR – Communication Mastery For Quiet Introverts

Learn How To Make Your Quiet Voice Heard At Work And At Play Join author, speaker and coach Patricia Weber and I, as we discuss confident communication for introverts. What: Communication Mastery For Quiet Introverts When: Wednesday, Sept. 30th @ 11 am PACIFIC Where: Free Online Event. Register Here. You’ll discover: The sneaky conversation mistake that most introverts make 3 Keys to assertive communication in any situation How to sound more confident and interesting in an instant 4 essential communication tools every introvert needs Reserve Your Spot In The Free Webinar Now About Patricia Weber Patricia Weber is America’s #1 Coach For Introverts (and extroverts reluctant to sell). She is an expert in leadership, sales and communication with over 25 years of experience in her field. Her most recent book, Communication Toolkit For Introverts, provides essential tools to help introverts through situations where they might normally feel uncomfortable (such as selling conversations, negotiating, and networking). Visit Patricia’s awesome blog... read more

Introvert: “My mind is too loud!”

Introverts are known for spending a lot of time inside our head. We have a mind that is constantly humming with ideas, and dreams. Often, our thoughts get so loud that we don’t notice anything else, including our own body. We are like bodiless brains that float around on a hovercraft of thoughts. That sounds like fun, but there are side-effects to the constant disconnect between body and mind. Loss of intuition We’ve all heard the saying “I felt it in my gut.” Well, when we are detached from our gut and the rest of our body, we don’t feel anything except the weight of our own thoughts. We become so reliant on the supposedly rational mind, that we forget how to tap into our intuition. As Albert Einstein put it: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”. Constant worry Our mind is rarely content with the present moment. It likes to dwell in the past or future where longing, regret, and worry reign supreme. Always being inside our head means that we are never in the present moment. The Now is where true connection, joy, and peace reside. We are most present when we are fully in our bodies, feeling every sensation and noticing what’s happening around us. Mental burnout Our brain is a valuable part of our being. There is no denying that. But when we use it in isolation from the rest of our body, we risk mental exhaustion. One of the biggest sources... read more
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Michaela Chung is an introvert writer, coach and entrepreneur. She is currently working on a book on introverted charisma due out in 2016.

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