I’m an introvert. I talk slowly. I work slowly. I even read slowly. I wander. I daydream. And I often spend about as much time thinking about a task as I do actually doing it. I’m not saying all of these qualities are directly linked to introversion, but from what I’ve read, many introverts take a similar slow and steady approach to life.
Because of the way introverts process information, we tend to need time to think before we speak. In other words, we speak more slowly than our extroverted counterparts. We might also execute other tasks more slowly. We’re not innate multitaskers. Instead, we prefer to tackle one task at a time, in a slow, but focused manner. In the age of fast-paced environments and faster talkers, our tendency towards slow and steady can be seen as a disadvantage. But is it, really?
I’ve already discussed the advantage of speaking slowly in my post about the introvert advantage in conversation. To summarize, speaking slowly can make you appear more confident and intelligent. It also gives people time to absorb what you are saying.
What about working slowly? Are there advantages to executing projects slowly and methodically, while others seem to speed through many tasks at once? The short answer is YES. Read on for the longer answer.
According to Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, “we tend to overestimate what we can do in a short period, and underestimate what we can do over a long period, provided we work slowly and consistently.”
Essentially, Rubin is saying that in the long run, it is consistency – not speed – that will lead to accomplishing more. Work slowly and consistently. That is the key to long-term success.
Author Anthony Trollope further explains:
“A small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules.”
So, who would you rather be? The spasmodic Hercules who works quickly, but never actually crosses the finish line, or the wise turtle that takes his time, but eventually wins the race?
Thank you so much for giving me so much references about introversion. I always feel like a stranger that living in a big extrovert world. Sounds funny. But thanks, now I understand that I’m just an introvert. Keep it up!
You’re welcome, Satrio! 🙂
Dear Michaela,
Thank you so much for posting this. It really helped me. Do you have experiences with introverts taking a very, very long time to recover from a breakup and give their ex a second chance? I have read introverts need to think things hard and long, could I have your feedback on my situation? I’ll try to keep it short.
When we broke up six months ago, my introvert ex-boyfriend told me that he could not imagine be with anyone but me, but he needed time. He said he could see a future for us, but he needed time. He said he believed in us and would make things work eventually, but he needed time. At the beginning we were basically strangers. Six months later, our contact has intensified, he spends a lot of his precious time with me and sends me cute texts. But still no significant change in our relationship status. I would say that there is a slow and steady improvement, but I have no idea where this is going. Plus, sometimes he does not write for days, especially when he is stressed and overworked. Is it common for introverts to take such a long time to rekindle a relationship they are theoretically invested in?