One of the biggest challenges introverts face is feeling overwhelmed by the things that extroverts handle with ease. Running errands, meeting new people, and engaging in small talk are just a few examples of activities that can feel overwhelming for introverts.
It’s not that we aren’t capable or competent. It’s not even that we dislike the above activities. It’s just that they wear us out much more quickly than they would the average extrovert.
This is really difficult for most people to wrap their head around. They just don’t get why introverts absolutely NEED to limit outside stimulation in order to feel at our best. They can’t comprehend how us innies can like people and find them totally draining and overwhelming at the same time.
Our introverted susceptibility to overstimulation simply doesn’t make sense to the average extrovert. And, you know what? I can completely understand why.
In our society, busy is a badge of honor and exhaustion is a status symbol. “So, you’re tired and overwhelmed, are you? Welcome to the club,” is what many would say. But feeling burnt out and exhausted is no way to live.
As introverts, we need to take special care to guard our energy – and our sanity – against the things that threaten to flatten us to the ground. In a world that points to the busybody extrovert as the model for success, this can be difficult.
Read on to learn how you can prevent introvert overwhelm before it hits.
Beat it with batching
Perhaps you’ve heard about batching before. It is often discussed as a great productivity booster. I’m not a big fan of the word “productivity”, since it evokes images of me transforming into an expressionless robot, BUT batching really can help you to be insanely productive, while also preventing introvert overwhelm.
How it works
The idea is that you “batch” similar tasks, and do them all at the same time, instead of hopping around from one random task to the next. For example, instead of checking your email throughout the day, you spend one hour zeroing your inbox per day and that’s it. Or, if you’re a creative person, you spend a whole day or half day creating, and then do all of your administrative tasks in another, separate batch.
Why it works so well
Did you know that introverts take longer to refocus after switching tasks than extroverts? True story. Our brains are wired for intense focus on one thing. Every time you switch to a different type of task, your brain has to change gears. This not only wastes time, but also leaves you feeling frazzled and exhausted.
Going on a mini retreat
In order to prevent exhaustion and overwhelm, it is really important to schedule in some innie self-care time. A great way to do this is by planning a mini retreat. Even if you don’t have the time or finances for a real vacation, you can probably set aside a day or two for a mini innie retreat.
Here are some ideas for a mini retreat:
- Take a two-day hiatus from social media and email so that you have time to read, wander and daydream
- Spend the weekend in a nearby city. Take the scenic route if you can. The journey is half the fun.
- Do all of your brainstorming and reading outside or in bed, so it feels like a treat rather than a chore.
- Take yourself on a daylong date. Go for a picnic during the day, then treat yourself to dinner and a movie in the evening.
Follow your introverted intuition
Most introverts have strong intuition. When you take the time to listen to those inner whisperings, you are much less susceptible to feelings of overwhelm. This has to do with the 80/20 rule of productivity (there’s that word again!).
The 80/20 rule states that 20 percent of the work we do causes 80 percent of the results. So, the key to success is not to do more work, but to focus more on the 20 percent that has the greatest impact.
How do you do this? Tapping into your introverted intuition is the best way to avoid spinning your wheels on tasks that don’t matter. Save yourself time and stress by going with your gut instinct – even if it doesn’t seem logical at the time.
What about you?
How do you deal with overwhelm? Feel free to share in the comments below!