Small talk is so much fun!
Said no introvert ever.
Let’s face it, small talk can be PAINFUL, especially when you’re an introvert, who needs more time to think before speaking. Maybe you have a tendency to get tongue-tied, or lose your train of thought in conversation.
Perhaps, you spend so much time thinking about what you’re going to say that you miss the chance to actually say it. This is normal!
We introverts communicate differently than extroverts. We prefer slower-paced conversations, about interesting topics. But that doesn’t mean we’re destined to suck at small talk. In fact …
With a few simple tweaks, introverts can master small talk, and use it to smoothly and quickly transition into deeper conversations.
I should know, because I’m an introvert, too, and I’ve worked with hundreds of introverted students and clients, who have the same communication struggles as you do. Maybe you’ve seen my innie advice around the web in places like Huffpost, The Chicago Tribune, The Globe and Mail, and INC.com.
Before I share those magic phrases with you, there’s something else you should know about me …
I’m a selective small talker. You see, I don’t believe in the typical extrovert-centric advice that tells introverts obliterate our comfort zone and put ourselves out there 100% of the time.
The secret to socializing as an introvert is to honor your energy needs. Use these small talk tips when your batteries are fully charged. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a break and recharge. There’s no need to feel guilty about honoring your introvert energy needs, and being a selective small talker.
Now, onto those 3 magic phrases for interesting conversation:
1.Make an observation.
Put an end to awkward silences by making an observation about your surroundings, and how they make you feel. For example:
“This place is packed, crowds make me feel overwhelmed. What about you?”
2. Follow-up with a probing question.
Break through small talk dead ends by following up with deeper probing questions. For example. If you ask someone how their day was and they say “good”. Follow up by saying,
“No, I’m really interested, how have things been going for you.”
3. Use a bridge statement.
Use a simple bridge statement to take the conversation to the next level. Here’s an example:
“I completely relate to what you said about __________ because …”
This is where you share your own experience or insight related to what your partner has said.
These phrases are just a teeny tiny snapshot of what I share in my Small Talk Quickies Masterclass, which is on special for the holidays right now.
The 2-hour class is loaded with simple bridge statements, go-to responses, and interesting questions to smoothly transition from boring small talk to interesting conversation.
I also show you how to get out of your head, and initiate a conversation with anyone, using done-for-you ice breakers.
It’s all laid out for you in clear simple steps. PLUS you get a workbook and MP3 to reinforce what you learned, and become a small talk ninja.
Click the link below to find out if Small Talk Quickies is right for you.