introvert i don't want to go but please invite me

Kids, the year was 2006, I was married, Mormon, and obsessed with cardigans. Since I didn’t grow up Mormon, I didn’t have any close friends in the church. Then one day, like a brick to the face, something happened that made me painfully aware of my friendlessness.

There was yet another wedding (Mormons love getting married, it’s kind of their thing), which I fully expected to be invited to.

The bride, we’ll call her Michelle, had been invited to the super private ceremony for my wedding. She pretty much had no choice but to invite me to hers. So when the invitation didn’t come, my heart sank.

Let me just say that I wasn’t too keen to go to another boring wedding reception at the church cultural hall. But it would’ve been nice to be invited. We introverts are often turned off by big events, but being excluded makes us feel like the kid that no one picked for their team.

Here’s the saddest part of my story. On the morning of the wedding, Michelle called my husband and told him that someone had cancelled, so they had space for us at the wedding reception after all. Naturally, we were insulted and thought it would be pathetic to attend.

We went. And it was actually one of the funnest weddings I’ve ever been to.

The moral of the story: we don’t want to go, we might leave early, and we’re expecting to have a crappy time, but since there is a chance that we’ll actually have fun, and because feeling excluded sucks … we would still like to be invited.

Can you relate to my story? I’d love to hear about it.

Please do share your experiences in the comments below.

Lots of love,




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