Hi Innie Friend,
I’m on ‘workaction’ in Montreal right now, and I’m dealing with a frustrating side effect of socializing that I know most introverts will relate to; it’s what I call a “social hangover”. You’ve probably had plenty of them in your life, and I think you’ll agree that they are the worst!
Funnily enough, an introvert social hangover is a lot like a real hangover. You feel groggy, irritable, exhausted, and overwhelmed. You don’t want to go out, talk, or even think. All you want to do is curl up by yourself and catch your breath.
The reason we introverts are extra susceptible to social hangovers is that being around people is highly stimulating. When we spend a lot of time socializing, we become overstimulated, and we literally start to shut down to protect ourselves.
Even though I’ve created countless resources for introverts, and I’ve written an entire book on how to be charismatic as an introvert, I still find social hangovers really tough. Because here’s the thing.
As much as I’ve learned to honour my introvert needs, and take quiet time to recharge, sometimes I really can’t avoid overstimulation. When I’m on vacation in a big city, I know a social hangover is inevitable, so I’ve found ways to cope. Take my vacation in Montreal, for example.
There is so much to do, see, and eat in Montreal, and I’m only here for one week. Even though I’m not doing nearly as much outing and abouting as most would on vacation, I still wake up a lot of mornings with a social hangover. But that’s okay, because …
I know the secret cure for a social hangover.
In today’s video, I share how I deal with social overwhelm. I also talk about how to vacation as an introvert and actually enjoy it, even if you’re sensitive and easily overwhelmed.
It’s my very first vlog-style video. In it, I get a little more personal and give you a glimpse into my innie life. I hope you like it!
An awesome Vlog Michaela! This is a wonderful combination of great insights and advice, along with a relaxed atmosphere, combined with your own wise thoughts, amazingly done! 🙂
Great Vlog Michaela, I really enjoyed it! Montreal is enigmatic place – it has a relaxing energy for such a large city with so many people, so in some ways it can be very introvert friendly. So long as you don’t have to drive in the legendary traffic.. 😉
Thanks Phillip! Yes, I quite liked it there, but wouldn’t want to live there I don’t think.
I really love this and feel it very accurately describes my feelings about going out and socializing! The right people are hugely essential for sure. I am blessed to have two introvert friends that I went on a trip with and it was great! It was the perfect balance of experiencing all that i could while also having my alone time in between to recharge and process inside all the great things I was taking in. Being with people I could be myself with and feel comfortable with enabled me to get all of my stimulation from taking in new places and new knowledge, and that was an awesome gift to this deep thinking, independent but adventurous introvert! We just need that essential balance!