If you’re an INFJ like me, then you probably know how much we hate lies. If there’s something that completely throws us off balance, it’s when someone doesn’t speak the truth. INFJs can put up with a lot of crap, but lying is where we draw the line.
Why INFJs hate lies so much
INFJs notice everything, and that includes lies too. However, that doesn’t mean we’re immune to the pain they can cause. Quite the contrary, lies affect us worse than any other personality type. The main reason why is because we value honesty and integrity above everything else.
Our idealistic trait stubbornly tries to convince us that everyone is honest. This is why INFJs have so many trust issues.
I know all too well how this feels. Every time I meet someone new, I assume that he or she speaks the truth. Suffice it to say, that’s not always the case. As I always say to my INFJ clients, not everyone has the same heart and belief system that we do.
INFJs can see through a lie
I already mentioned our ability to see and notice everything, but nowhere is this more expressed than when a person tries to lie to an INFJ. Forget about lie detectors, because INFJs are the real deal.
Our ability to read facial expressions, notice the slightest shift in a person’s voice tone, and intuitively feel a suspicious change make us the perfect advocates and counselors.
We instinctively know when someone is not telling the truth. I’ll tell you a little secret. An INFJ even knows when someone lies through a written message. This is how good we are at recognizing insincerity.
Others might think you’re weird
You must understand, because of your sharp INFJ ability to pinpoint when somebody lies, you’ll be seen as weird and sometimes even dangerous.
So the question I want you to ask yourself is: “Do I want to live a fake life, or an authentic one?”
INFJs are beacons of uniqueness
Being an HSP, empath INFJ, I spent countless hours convincing myself that my sincere nature is worth all the difficulties I went through. I can tell you with the utmost certainty, it was. I now see all those “there’s something wrong with you” looks as compliments. They showed me that I am unique and authentic.
If we chose to, INFJs would be the perfect liars. We know how to spot a lie, but at the same time, it would be almost impossible for anyone to detect our lies. But that’s never going to happen. An INFJ knows how much lies hurt. That’s why we choose the path of honesty and understanding.
No matter the consequences you may face, orwhat people say, be sincere. You’re not doing it because of anyone else, but because your amazing INFJ mind doesn’t need lies to prosper. It needs you to be true to yourself, even if you’re the only one doing so. <3
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What about you?
What do you do when someone lies to you? Do you give them a second chance, or do you close the door for good? Feel free to share your comments below, I would love to hear from you on this important topic for INFJs!