For introverts, the saying ‘too much of a good thing’ is particularly relevant. Many things that we enjoy are only enjoyable in small doses. Crowds, parties, loud music and loud people might be entertaining for a little while, but they quickly deplete introvert energy.
In order to replenish our energy reserves, we seek out the quiet and familiar. We enter into a sort of activity/recovery cycle. One big party could incapacitate us for the rest of the weekend. The non-stop celebrations that accompany the holidays often require weeks of recovery.
If you follow my Facebook page, you know that I went to my first Mexican wedding this past weekend. There were mariachis, fireworks, and enough bottles of tequila to fill a bathtub. In truth, I had a blast. Today, however, I feel like a wrung out cloth, every last drop of energy drained out of me.
I suspect that I will spend the rest of the week recuperating from my weekend escapades. In this case, it was worth it. But I can think of many instances when an activity wasn’t worth the price I paid in physical and mental exhaustion.
The introvert energy threshold
It’s easy to forget that everyone has different thresholds for novelty and excitement. For some people, partying all weekend is a way of life. For others, it would be no way of living at all.
As introverts, the important thing to remember is that energy is not a limitless resource. Every portion that we spend in one area of our life, leaves less for other areas.
Why extroverts don’t get it
Because extroverts gain energy from things that drain us, they have difficulty understanding our needs. They look at us with crinkled brows when we choose to stay home on a Saturday night. They find it strange that we don’t go out as much as they do. They encourage us to “seize the day” and “come out of our shells”.
What they don’t realize is that we have different ideas of what it means to “seize the day”. What gives them a buzz gives us a headache. What makes them leap for joy makes us run for cover. What energizes them drains us.
This doesn’t mean that we can’t enjoy the same activities that extroverts do. But we will likely do so with our shells and excuses to leave early in tow. And we reserve the right to stay home in our pajamas the next day (or three).
What about you?
Do you find that you need recovery time after a social events? Please do share your insights and experiences in the comments below. 🙂
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