More and more I’m realizing that a lot of introverts are not living life on their own terms. Instead they are putting a lot of their precious energy into a life they don’t love – sometimes even a life they hate.
As introverts, many of us are told from a young age that our way of being in the world isn’t the right way. We end up getting caught up in a vicious, draining cycle of trying to live up to the extrovert ideal, failing and then trying something else that is doomed to fail, too.
Why can’t you just fit in?
The reason our efforts to fit in and live up to the extrovert ideal fail is because, in the end, our inner compass will always tell us to do what is best for us. Living on someone else’s terms is NOT what is best for us. It limits us, and keeps us from fulfilling our potential and experiencing true joy.
The thing you’ll regret most
A few weeks ago I received a message from a subscriber in his fifties. He said (and I’m paraphrasing): I feel like I’ve wasted my whole life living on other people’s terms. It may be too late for me, but at least with your site, the young people will have a chance.
WOW! Talk about an eye-opening, heart-breaking, message! I immediately wondered how many other introverts feel this way? How many others feel like they’ve wasted their life?
His words left a pit in my stomach and a sense of determination in my heart. I don’t want any introvert to feel like their life has been wasted. I want each and every person in our introvert community to experience the joy that comes with living life on your own terms. Every. Single. Day.
How can you start living life on YOUR terms
Well, the fact that you are part of this introvert community is a great start. For me, just knowing that there wasn’t something wrong with me helped me to begin honoring my true needs and desires.
Anywho, I’m feeling kind of lonely over here in Introvert Internet Land. I would love to hear from you. Do you feel like you’ve been living life on other people’s terms? What has helped you to start living your best innie life?
Lots of love,