For some reason, our culture has learned to associate quietness with weakness, or even stupidity. We’re told that being outgoing is the ideal, and if you’re reserved and soft-spoken, you are somehow lacking.
Another reason that introverts are underestimated is because of our tendency to speak slowly. While many extroverts can talk a mile a minute on topics ranging from the conversation they had with their hairdresser to the their child’s vaccine schedule, us innies need more time to verbalize our thoughts.
Being the observant people that we are, we know when we are being sized up and deemed lacking. We know that there is so much more to us than meets the eye.
So, how do we address this? How can we show those who underestimate us that we have more depth than they assume we do?
Should we even bother?
I used to struggle with the above questions a lot. I got tired of hearing that people who didn’t know me well thought I was shallow or snobby. I wondered if I should try harder to show them that there is so much more to me than what they see on the surface.
Nowadays, I rarely worry about being underestimated. People still do make assumptions about me. They still size me up and see where I’m lacking. But a funny thing happened once I started knowing my own worth as an introvert, and as a beautifully flawed human being.
I began attracting people who could easily see my value. My people. Instead of struggling to prove myself to those who would never get me anyway, I focus on those who do.
What about you? How do you deal with being underestimated because of your introverted nature?
I look forward to hearing from you!
Lots of love,