Many introverts have received the message that they need to change. We’ve been told that introversion is not the norm. It’s strange to be quiet. It’s weird to want to stay home alone on a Saturday night. And it’s downright unimaginable that we could like people and still not want to be around them 24/7.
Negative feedback causes introverts to feel shame about our introversion. One of the most common comments I receive from followers is “I thought there was something wrong with me.” They are surprised and relieved to discover that there are many other people like them – that, perhaps, there is nothing wrong with them after all. Then comes the hard part.
For most introverts, it took several years of conditioning to come to loath our introversion. Learning to accept it won’t happen overnight. It might even be painful at first, like ripping off a grimy old band-aid that’s been on for way too long. But it’s absolutely worth it.
There are so many benefits to loving our introversion. One of the number one goals of this blog is to help people to do just that. In case you didn’t get the message from my other pro-introversion posts (ie. all of them), here are a few more reasons to love your introversion:
It makes you more awesome
Being naturally introspective and reflective is like having a built-in mechanism for self-improvement. It helps us to grow.
Looking inward requires solitude. Many people don’t like solitude because they are afraid to face difficult truths about themselves. As Deepak Chopra puts it:
“To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.”
As introverts, we are innately drawn to solitude and the wisdom found therein. When we embrace our introversion, we reap the fruits of solitude. Emotional intelligence increases. Ideas proliferate. Creativity soars.
It makes the world a better place
When we love our introversion, we are able to unleash our greatest gifts. It is through the use of these gifts that we make the world a better place.
There are far too many introverts in this world who aren’t reaching their fullest potential because they are too busy trying to be extroverts. I know because I was one of them. I was so focused on improving my supposed weaknesses that I neglected my greatest strengths – all of which are closely tied to my introversion. Now I see that I have so much more to offer the world when I stay true to my introverted nature.
It opens doors
One of the reasons that introverts fear our introversion is that we think embracing our true nature will close doors. We believe that job opportunities will pass us by. Potential friendships will be lost. Adventures will be missed. But this is only true if we buy into the myth that introversion is a handicap. The only doors that will close when we embrace our introversion are the ones that would lead to self-imprisonment.
Maya Angelou once said:
“Love liberates. It doesn’t hold. That’s ego. Love liberates.”
Loving your introversion is one of the most liberating things you can do for yourself. It liberates you to your true calling. It liberates you to love. And it liberates you to your best possible life.
In case you’re interested, here is the full version of what Maya Angelou had to say about liberating love: