Can introverts and extroverts make a successful love match? Well, yes, of course.  But maybe not.  Or maybe yes, but they won’t be a perfect fit.

The thing is, most relationship experts and unwanted advice givers will tell you there is no such thing as a flawless pairing. I agree.  Hmmm. So, now we’re back at square one again.

Which leads me to conclude that I can’t conclusively answer the question.  There are far too many factors that come into play when two uniquely flawed people try to build a relationship.

The best I can offer are some potential pros and cons related to an introvert/extrovert pairing.


1. Because it’s difficult for extroverts to understand introverts, your partner may never truly ‘get’ you.

2. Perhaps they will speak too much and listen too little, hampering the chances of a deep and meaningful connection.

3. They will likely want to go out more than you, which could cause conflict if neither of you are willing to compromise.

4. Your extrovert could create an annoying amount of noise pollution in the house. This may seem like a small thing, but over time this can be really aggravating.

5. They might invite people over without telling you and then get upset when you don’t feel like socializing.

6.  They could constantly try to ‘help’ you to be more extroverted rather than accept you the way you are.


1. They can be your social connector, introducing you to new people and places you wouldn’t have found on your own.

2.  They might encourage you (in a non-irritating way) to get out of your comfort zone and try new things.

3. In social settings, they can do the talking when you can’t think of anything to say (this can be a con as well).

4. They are able to show you a different way of viewing and interacting with the world.

5. They might have the ability to spark interesting and enriching conversations that help deepen your connection.

6.  It is very possible that they will fully accept and appreciate all of your fine introverted qualities.

I have had serious relationships with both introverts and extroverts.  I’m still sussing out, which I prefer.  As I said before, there are a lot of things to consider beyond introversion and extroversion.

And what about you, anonymous reader and/or introvert revolutionist?  What are your thoughts on an introvert/extrovert love match?