One of the biggest challenges we introverts face is energy drain. Many of us are already aware of the typical sources of energy depletion, such as social activities and busy environments.
But there is another energy vampire that you might not have picked up on. This one is extra sneaky, so it’s no wonder that it has evaded your attention.
Decisions are a major source of energy drain for introverts. This energy vampire is increasingly relevant as our culture focuses more on freedom of choice.
Making decisions becomes more difficult as our choices expand. I’m not just talking about the big decisions, like where to live and who to marry. It’s the smaller daily choices that have really gotten out of hand.
Gone are the days when you merely had to choose between black coffee and coffee with sugar and cream. Now you have to decide whether you want it medium, light or dark roast; skim, 1 % or full fat; with or without foam.
And just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out, they throw you a curve ball, and ask “would you like a shot of hazelnut?” Damn. Hadn’t thought of that, but it does sound good. Oh, but the calories …
Before you know it, you’re having a mini-crisis over what kind of coffee to order. And you’ve still got a whole day of decisions ahead.
What to wear.
What to have for lunch.
Whether to spend lunch alone or force yourself to socialize.
What to do after work.
Where to find the perfect gift for your mother-in-law.
You’re starting to get used to this whole being a grownup thing, so the above decisions don’t really phase you, but then you open up your computer, and you’re assaulted with a virtual buffet of choices that you didn’t even know existed.
Maybe it sounds like I’m exaggerating, but decisions really can be a serious source of mental exhaustion. This became clear to me a while ago while I was travelling through Thailand. Much of my time there was spent wandering the crowded streets in search of food. Normally, picking a restaurant to eat at is fun. But when you’re doing so three or four times a day it can feel overwhelming.
This is because every decision we make takes mental energy. The hamster only has so much juice, so the more energy we sink into making choices, the less we have for other things.
How to beat the decision monster
This is why so many introverts (myself included) love routines. Routines and rituals eliminate choices. They put certain parts of our day on cruise control, allowing us to free up mental space for other more important things. Like daydreaming. 😉
So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, try reducing the number of decisions you make in a day. Decide ahead of time what you will have for lunch each day of the week. Put a morning routine in place that doesn’t require much thinking. Take a break from the Internet and read a book (right after you finish reading this blog, of course).
Still need help?
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to figure things out on our own, we just can’t seem to do it. I’ve discovered that a little bit of guidance and support goes a long way for introverts. Energy alchemist and Body Talk therapist Alexa Linton helps sensitive souls stop sneaky energy leaks and restore their body and mind.
Alexa and I are offering a free mini class this Tuesday, Sept. 8th. See details below.
- How to overcome the energy challenges of the highly sensitive (HSP) introvert
- Common energy leaks of the HSP introvert and how to restore them
- How to use the wisdom of your own body to revitalize yourself
- Core principles of energy alchemy and how to use them in your daily life
- A 5-min. exercise to quickly detect and resolve sneaky energy leaks
- The secret to deep and lasting energy healing for consistent energy levels