Dear INFJ friend,
Choosing the top INFJ careers that will satisfy all our needs is not easy. It’s a hard road filled with obstacles. We are unique, so not all jobs are suitable for our rare personality.
INFJs excel in many areas. There’s a reason why we are called advocates, diplomats, counselors, and healers. INFJs are the perfect negotiators. Despite all our amazing gifts, it’s not easy to find the best INFJ careers.
That’s why I’ve put together the a list of the top 10 INFJ careers for you. I made an infographic, too, which I’ll share a bit later in this article, but first I want to talk about why it’s so tough for INFJs to find the right career.
The INFJ careers conundrum
While searching for our true calling, INFJs face a lot of obstacles. To help you better prepare, here are the three primary issues every INFJ I had the chance to speak with has faced when choosing a career:
1. You need to make a difference
The first issue is that making a difference seems impossible. The nature of the job itself isn’t that important as long as it enables us to make a difference.
I’m not talking about finishing a day’s work type of difference, but rather something else.
The difference I speak about is an all or nothing affair. Waking up every morning and knowing that what we do means something and that it helps someone is our motivation. It’s what gives us energy and focus.
An INFJ has to feel fulfilled or he or she risks becoming indifferent. It’s a really bad sign when you see an indifferent INFJ.
2. You hate feeling stagnant
The second challenge is that when an INFJ stagnates, the chances of keeping that career drop to zero. Seeing a higher meaning in our career is key for INFJs.
Our determination depends on the level of meaning we see in the work we do. If a career seems dull to us, stagnation will occur and INFJs will no longer see the point of doing that job.
If there isn’t a possibility for us to advance and upgrade ourselves, INFJs don’t waste time on that career. We simply move on.
3. You struggle with feelings of unworthiness
The third issue INFJs face when choosing a career is that we often feel unworthy. This feeling may come from inside or from an external source. We think that we are worthless and that we don’t deserve the chances given to us.
I’m all too familiar with these three challenges, but they needed to happen so that I could pinpoint the top INFJ careers and find the job of my dreams.
My INFJ job story
In the past, people told me many times: “You are so picky, that’s why you will never succeed.” I’ll be honest, I wanted to cry every time I heard this judgmental sentence.
Before finding Introvert Spring, which became my life calling and purpose, I changed jobs so many times that I lost count. Some of these jobs served as preparation and helped me discover what I really want to do. But the majority of my past careers were slowly draining me from the inside out.
This is how I looked couple of years ago, every morning before work. There was no smile on my face, no excitement, no vision, and certainly not the desire to make a difference.
In order to help you land the top INFJ careers, I’ll share with you which ones are best in my opinion.
The top 10 INFJ careers
INFJs excel at positions where we can genuinely help people, make a difference, upgrade ourselves, and not wear a mask. Every career choice that slows an INFJ’s progress is an automatic ‘no’ in our mind.
We need to have a higher goal, and a clear vision of where we want to be. Without it, INFJs will lose motivation and determination for further development.
In the INFJ Careers Infographic I share towards the end of this article, I show in detail which INFJ careers you should pursue, which ones to avoid, and why. But before that, let’s take a look at the top ten INFJ careers. These are my personal favorites, which I highly recommend:
• Writer
• Healthcare Worker
• Artist
• Social Worker
• Counselor
• Therapist
• Librarian
• Scientist
• Life Coach
• Forester
If you don’t like your current job, don’t worry, the situation won’t last forever. It’s only teaching you what you need to learn so that you can find the best possible career. As a bonus and a friendly INFJ warning, I’ll now share with you ten jobs you should avoid at all costs if you’re an INFJ.
10 jobs every INFJ should avoid
The jobs I mention here represent the worst career nightmares for the majority of INFJs. The interesting thing is that I worked five out of ten of these worst INFJ careers. They were difficult lessons I needed to learn.
Trust me, unless you really want to have one of these careers, avoid them however you can. Our INFJ nature is simply not compatible with certain jobs, and that’s okay.
• Customer Service/Support
• Door-to-Door Sales
• Journalist
• Security Guard
• Front Desk Clerk
• Military Officer
• Politician (except diplomacy)
• Every job that repeats itself daily without meaning
• Every job where inner advancement is not possible
If the situation allows you, try avoiding these ten worst INFJ careers at all costs. Luckily, choosing the best INFJ careers for you can be an interesting journey.
Choosing the right INFJ careers
When it comes to choosing a career, nothing matters more to an INFJ than to be able to have an impact. We can handle the noisy coworker, lack of privacy, or even deal with a nervous, extroverted boss. But we must feel like we’re making a meaningful contribution to the world.
One of the best ways to know that you’ve chosen one of the top INFJ careers is when it makes you lose track of time. You’ve probably heard about this term, but try to imagine its meaning from the view of an INFJ.
Organization of time is a core principle for INFJs. When you lose track of time while working,that means you’ve found what you’ve been looking for. Before I reveal the INFJ Careers Infographic, there’s one more important thing you need to know.
Embrace your uniqueness as a guide
Despite sharing the INFJ personality, we are all unique. For example, when I was working as a public speaker and a journalist, I had no problem speaking in front of a crowd of hundreds, nor interviewing one person after another. However, I wasn’t fulfilled on the inside.
Determining the right INFJ careers can be tricky because we also face external pressure. My family never supported my career choices. I knew that if I was to make a difference, I needed to follow my heart.
Most people think that a true calling is gained through promotion, or a lot of money. It isn’t. No promotion or paycheck can replace the feeling you get when you love what you do.
When you find a career you feel is right for you, your INFJ soul will be fully immersed in it. There’s no better feeling than when you give your heart to something you believe in.
Never stop reaching towards what you want to do and searching for that top INFJ career! This road is not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
Remember the photo of me from the beginning of this article? The sad face and eyes full of tears before work? This is me now, doing what I love most and living my INFJ purpose.
Notice the difference? ?
Okay, without further ado, here is the Top 10 INFJ Careers Infographic. You can download, print, and/or share this infographic to your heart’s content!
Late owner of Apple and a great visionary Steve Jobs knew how to perfectly explain the search for the right career and calling:
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”
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What about you?
I would love to hear what you do for a living right now, my fellow INFJ! Would you add a career I missed? What do you consider to be your dream job? Feel free to share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you!
Love,
Marko
P.S I put a lot of love into this article, because I believe that for INFJs, career holds a special place in our heart. We have a chance to make a difference through it and show just how awesome we really are! ?
I’m currently an office worker/librarian/theologian, and I love it! I used to work in customer service, and dreaded every day of it, and had no social energy at all. Now I have energy and desire to invest in friends.
That’s great to hear you love what you do now Helena! Thanks so much for sharing! 🙂
Marko, I hope you are still doing this forum. At 50 yrs old, just learning that I am infj. Explains why I have been so depressed for 25yrs stuck in a factory job. Having a good secure job, loving wife, great kids, I would be more depressed, because I felt like I had no reason to be depressed. Crazy. I have felt over the years like I was losing my personality, becoming more and more anti social. Many of the infj traits are just dead on. Others seem off, but I feel like the traits may have been there before the beat down of tedious, unfulfilling factory job. Anyway, at 50, with no skills and just a little college(and no desire or time to take more classes) is there a good paying job out there that would bring back “Me”?
Hi Kurt, feel free to sign up and come to the forum whenever you wish. 🙂 You have skills, that I can assure you. Write down on a piece of paper what career would make you happy. Don’t even look at the age, that doesn’t play a role. Write down what would make you fulfilled, and go after it no matter what. Remember, you already have everything you need, because you are enough.
Kurt, I know this was some time ago. What has happened since this post? I’m currently 50, work selling cars, and absolutely can’t stand it. I’m a recovering addict and would love to become a counselor, but it would take years to obtain the schooling. Anyway, I hope you’ve discovered your career purpose.
I am 51 and also struggling to find a career that I will enjoy. I have learned a lot about myself, and why I am struggling, since I found out I have an INFJ personality.
Hi Wendi
I am also 52yo and only recently just about 2 years ago I found out that I am also an Infj. I always felt different and I never really knew what was wrong with me. But now I understand.
Hi Marko,
Awesome article. For a student seeking temporary work until graduation, I’m wondering if you would recommend any jobs? Most of the jobs you listed recuers a degree, so I’m curious if you have any suggestions for a job that would be more suitable for a student? I really don’t want to keep working 9-5 shitty jobs that I hate and suck at until graduation, and i still have a lot of school left
Thanks so much, Paytpn! I would recommend some volunteer work, part time that would not take much of your energy. Working at a library or bookstore sound good being you are a student. 🙂 These are the jobs that I would look. 🙂
It feels like you understand my internal struggle. I have also struggled with customer service and the aspect of putting on a mask when going to work is torture to me. I got into CNA/caregiver work and feel so much more fulfilled in this job. For more of a long term goal I have been contemplating going into either dental hygiene or maybe an occupational therapist assistant. What do you think about these fields? Also what about a life coach, that sounds very interesting. How do find work with this career?
I’m currently studying so I have to chose a career soon and I planned on either being a civil servant or becoming a edupreneur. My family runs a bunch of schools so I might as well take care of it . But I am confused because I’m interested in computer science. what should I do ? Please give me advice.
Yeshisama,
INFJ’s typically have MANY interests, making it difficult to pinpoint a career. The key for an INFJ is to have a career where you feel you are making a difference. This needs to be in alignment with your values. It must call forth the most authentic “you.”
You will find may things interesting. It really is a blessing and a curse. Consider keeping some of these interests as hobbies. That can help an INFJ from feeling boxed in to only one thing.
I hope this helps. 🙂
I’m an INFJ and I am hypersensitive to people. I get so fed up and tired of employees that display pettiness and meanness. I have worked in many jobs. I usually end up leaving for another because I just can’t take it. I’m tired of different jobs. I want a career that lasts forever, but without having to work around so many people. Just this week a coworker approached me and asked me exactly what I did and asked if I was doing the right job. Then she said there’s been lots of talk today. I told her I asked the manager what she wanted me to do so I did it. I felt like saying why don’t you go ask the manager if you are so worried about it. I didn’t say it to her. Just thought it. This is just typical for me. I get so fed up with it. I try my best to not be defensive, but then I end up feeling defeated again. HR
Hey there, I don’t really leave comments after reading a post but the sincerity with which you have written this piece, compels me to display my appreciation. It is a really thoughtful and helpful post ans you are doing a great job through this forum. All the best. I am still looking for my ideal job, hope to find it one day. I was just feeling to settle with what I have lately, but after reading your post, I feel motivated again to keep looking and not compromise in life.
This makes so much sense, Marko. The more I understand my INFJ nature, the more my life in general makes sense. Like you, I worked in several of the “not recommended” careers. I used to secretly wonder what was wrong with me when I felt unfulfilled and disengaged from work. Now I am so much happier. I am a mind-body retreat leader, yoga teacher, and Reiki practitioner. I am also writing again. I absolutely love my work. I know for a fact that my contribution makes a positive difference in my clients’ lives, and that makes it all worth it. Studying and understanding my introverted nature has helped me become more assertive about my own self-care and downtime, because I now finally understand that the more fully and lovingly I show up for and treat myself, the more I can be truly present for others. That beats phoning it in any day!
Thanks Bria! I understand you, all too well. What you do is amazing, thank you so much for sharing! I couldn’t agree more with what you said here. 🙂
I am a lawyer. I now volunteer with the social welfare department of my state. Next year I am going for a postgraduation degree in International human rights Law.
I see law as a tool of social change, more than anything else. And I hope to make a difference in the quality of human rights people are afforded with everywhere on the globe.
What interested me about your article was that though you haven’t mentioned law as a career option, what I do every day involves some elements of the careers you did mention.
Thank you for sharing your story. Have a great day 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this, Parvathi ! I agree, in the realm of law too, there is wonderful difference to be made. You are most welcome. 🙂
I too am 50 yrs old.. I have been a pilot, Farmer, Millwright, Business owner..just never satisfied. I recently discovered my personality type. What a revelation for me.. now I understand why I have never been happy in my employment.. I would be engaged for a time… then once I saw there was no real opportunity to learn further or make a difference I quickly lost interest.. I know now that whatever I do next must have constant ability to help people with their struggles. With that in mind I have on my own, thought many times, that law would meet my needs. Constant change and constant challenge with the ability to help people with issues that are affecting them.. So why is it that Lawyer is not on the list?
Thanks for the interesting article… I’m 32 and think I’ve had around 15 jobs or possibly more so far. I’m an empath and infj and I’m always drawn towards helping people but have struggled with getting burnt out quickly. I’m currently 7 months into my first social worker job and I’m sure that aspects of social work suit infjs. But in my current role, I do alot if admin, feel my hands of tied with helping people and theres alot of contact over the phone with alot of different people. Also its fast paced and juggling alot of things at once, very present and task focused. And I know us infjs struggle with using extraverted sensory and being in the moment alot. In hoping I can move to another area, mental health is my passion, and have deeper conversations and gain more meaning…
I am a lawyer too and I identify strongly with Parvathi’s comment. Learning the law is an excellent path for making a difference, but I think an INFJ has to find his or her own way in the profession. For me, now 20 years out of law school, the “ideal” path for a lawyer (law school to big firm) was not at all ideal. Although I remain interested in and passionate about my legal specialty (tax law), I have had to figure out the right and wrong environments for myself. I love, love, love sharing my knowledge and solving problems to help others, but I found the conflict with opposing counsel and the financial pressures of the law firm (tracking my hours and sending bills to clients) REALLY stressful. Also, instead of working on tax problems one at a time, I had an irresistible urge to work on improving the tax system so that such problems as my clients experienced didn’t arise in the first place. Now I work in a government office, which is a huge improvement but still is not a final destination. Just as being a politician is on Marko’s list of jobs not suitable for INFJs, I think working for politicians is also tough for INFJs. My current goal is to move into policy research, where I can use my experience, my writing ability, my intuition and my integrity to make a contribution to understanding and addressing some of the tax policy problems in my state. I hope my experience is helpful to other INFJ lawyers and lawyers-to-be.
I like that you’re a lawyer. I too am interested in politics but especially policy. I’ve started my degree but can’t seem to find a job in the meantime to keep me satisfied. I’m currently a receptionist, which I hate. I can’t stand the inconsistency of everyone telling me how to do my job differently all the time. I thought of being a paralegal because the degree is so easy to obtain. Now, I’m rethinking that. I don’t think I could handle some lawyer treating me like a secretary. I think maybe I should have just gone to law school like I had originally planned. I don’t have money and I already owe loans for my current degree. I’m lost on where to go and quickly approaching 30. I can’t keep living like this. It seems to never end. Thank you for your insight. It was useful information.
Shelby
Do you think Family law would be a good choice for INFJ?
No. There is too much conflict in family law. I believe it would kill an infj to be a family law. Family law is messy and ugly. It is heartbreaking when kids are involved. And finally, there is absolutely no way to be fair to both parties since the judges are all over the place with rulings. There is no consistency in the rule of law for the family court system. I think an infj can be of great help in the mediation process in family law. We can help to ease tensions, see fairness a little easier, we are able to pick up on the values of a person better than other personality types. An effective mediator can bring about a peaceful agreement before the couple goes to court which is like rolling dice. I know all of this from personal experience so I hope it helps. Choose humanitarian law areas like immigration, human rights, etc. if you want to help people. But family law sucks the heart and soul out of almost everyone involved except for the corrupt lawyer collecting the money. An infj has a hard time making money off of this kind of situation. It goes against our values.
i am a secretary in a law firm.i used to be the family law dept.i have to ask for a transfer because the work is too emotionally draining within 2 years…now i’m in property dept for 6 years now. I’m good at my work but i have feel that i make no difference so i’m considering what is the next option for me…
Hi JKR,
I am applying to law schools right now and I appreciate your comment. I would love to hear more about your experience. I know I’d never want to work at a large law firm & I have already done an internship at a small law firm and enjoyed it. I liked estate law but not the family law (so much drama). I also think I’d find passion in immigration law.
I am a Barber. I deal with all different kinds of people every day. At the end of the day I am exhausted. But I know that I make a difference for many of my clients. For some, I am the only person who touches them. I often go to them when they are no longer able to come to me, and have been to the funeral home, at the request of family. I often let the client set the tone of whatever conversation may occur. It’s a different job than I ever imagined for myself, but one that is fulfilling on a daily basis.
Thank you for sharing what you do, Mason! You are doing a great job, and even though I believe you are exhausted at the end of the day, you really make a difference in people’s lives. And it’s good to hear it fulfills you. 🙂
Marko, this is so spot on! Thank you. I worked as a healthcare professional for several years, which was extremely rewarding, but I eventually wanted to make a wider impact and also do it in a way that allowed me to truly be myself. So now, I’m building a coaching practice and doing academic counseling on the side. I feel SO much better!
You are most welcome, Diana! Thank you for your kind words. Thank you so much for sharing this, and I am happy to hear you feel better now, that’s great! 🙂
Hey Marko, this is a great and useful article!
I am wondering if you consider Teacher (either primary or high school) to be a good career choice for INFJs? It’s something I often think about pursuing, particularly teaching History/Social Studies. I also wonder if INFJs generally work better with younger or older kids, or no kids at all haha. Teenagers can be mean sometimes and may make the feelings of unworthiness worse! Thanks for this article 🙂
Thanks Reese! I’m glad you like the article. 🙂 Great question! Yes, definitely, teacher is a good career for an INFJ. As for your second question, it depends, but INFJs in general establish a good connection with all ages, because of our deep understanding and putting ourselves in another perspective. The key is to pay attention when you need to recharge, since job of a teacher can be draining, but rewarding. 🙂
Hello! I just wanted to add that I have been a teacher for 17 years. I’ve mostly taught very troubled teenagers reading comprehension and English. I’ve loved my job always and have no doubt it has been the right job for me. After all this time; however, I have become emotionally drained because, yes, teenagers are draining, especially teens who have difficult, often tragic lives. So, this last year, I decided to change to special education and accept a position where my primary focus is vocational education/training for young adults. I’m excited about this change because it shouldn’t be so draining. I hope this helps. I just couldn’t imagine ever doing anything else.
Hi, kdmiller! Thank you so much for sharing this, and I am happy to hear that you made this change that will be less overwhelming for you. 🙂
I think there is more harmony and more of a family feel, i.e. making a difference with younger kids. Managing behavior is also a big part of teaching high school, so if you don’t think you’d enjoy that type of challenge, I would encourage you to choose a different age level. I taught high school and middle school for 2 years as an INFJ, and was miserable. I would advise younger kids, or at the very oldest middle school.
I went into librarianship long before I knew that I was an INFJ: sadly the library I work in is a hostile environment for people like me. Despite having the necessary qualifications to work at a professional level my position at a lower-ranked classification has become entrenched with no path to anything better. I try to make the most of my situation but I am thwarted at every turn, and I have little to no control over the work I do or how I do it. My manager is extremely insensitive and patronising and seems determined to keep me down. It makes no difference to her that I am going through a traumatic divorce and that I am having to sell my house and find somewhere else to live. I would like to change jobs but I have no confidence left. I am currently studying but my continuing in my degree (I am doing so well because it’s the only thing I am rewarded for doing) isn’t assured since it is up to the manager whether they will accommodate my study requirements.
I’m sorry you are facing this situation where you work, Possum. Don’t stop, keep moving, you got this! Where you are is temporary, don’t give up. You will find a better job and you will do wonderfully on your studies, regardless of what your current boos does. You have my full support.
Hi Marko, i am an true INFJ and i just turned 30 years old yesterday. I feel like I’m in a quarter life crisis as i do not find passion in my job, working in family business. I wish to try something different and new that taps on my creative mind. I am curious to know your career path and what were the difficulties you encountered as a fellow INFJ. I feel that i work best independently and have control over my work, i used to work to years in corporate job but it was very political and not suitable for me
Hi, weehsien! First thing is that you have to understand that it’s okay you haven’t found your calling yet. It’s okay, because this is a process that takes time, don’t rush yourself. Before I found my purpose, I was jumping from one career to another, but I always knew that would lead me to what I am doing now, what I love the most. Trust in the process and don’t be discouraged by this temporary situation you are in, because it will change. You already know what makes you feel good about work, so slowly start building on that, and don’t be so hard on yourself. One step at a time, you will find your life calling, it’s only a matter of time. 🙂
Hi Marko, you mentioned you were in a nine to five job previously, what did you switch to? A full time writer? I have lately (re)discovered my strength in writing as I feel I express best in words. However I don’t know where to get started
I worked the most extroverted jobs you can imagine: public relations manager, event organizer, customer support, announcer, journalist… But I found myself through writing and coaching my fellow INFJs to find their purpose in life and accept who they arem so I became a INFJ writer and a professional coach. I started writing for my own soul while working all those extroverted jobs, journaling what I see, feel, dream, notice, plan. Then I found life calling, my purpose, which is what I do now. 🙂
Hi Marko, how did you start with the writing career? Did you start writing online on a blog? Or you worked as a paid writer in a company that hired you?
It all started with Introvert Spring. 🙂 It’s my life calling, what I love doing the most. Through Introvert Spring, I found my purpose, I found myself. 🙂 In the past, I wandered, searching, but everything came together when I found what I do now, what I cherish the most.
Hi Marko,
Fantastic blog and information given, I’ve not long realised I am an advocate and when I read through what that normally means it all now makes sense. I’ve worked in retail and never felt fulfilled, I now working selling motorcycles and I like it in the way of helping people but I hate the bitchy and backstabbing that I see all the time. I’ve worked as service manager before and I liked that but I’m in a career rut. What would you recommend is my best option? I love leading a team and would want to do something in that regard like I have before.
Thank you for your great article.
Hi Marko, do you think copywriting is a good INFJ career
Hi Walter, yes, definitely. 🙂
Hi Marko, can you write an article on networking? I’ve always have people tell me, you should network, but I really find it difficult and unnecessary to do so
Thanks for the suggestion, Walter! Sounds interesting. 🙂
Hi Marco, thanks for the great article!
I know for quite some time that I work differently from the majority of the world, and that my personality type is INFJ. I am quite happy for it, cannot really unleash my talents though.
I am working for seven (oh my! so long…) years as an accountant in multinational environment, and apart from the good and fix salary and some nice people, I cannot stand the job itself. I am not me, and had to confess myself that I do not like details as I thought before and not as tidy as I was in high school.
I am currently gathering my strength to finally step out of this situation and somehow – write. 🙂 (A sudden idea: my struggles as an INFJ, haha.)
You are most welcome, Maryann! I can understand you, since before I found my life calling, what I do now, I was working jobs that were simply not me. You have my full support to follow your heart and dreams, and find a career where you will be your wonderful self. 🙂
Thank you so much for this! When I was younger, I had many of the jobs you suggested we NEVER get. I tended to go into sales because I speak well, have a great memory, and took a consultative approach to it…but I always hated it.
After a horrible divorce, I decided I’d never do anything for a living that I didn’t love deeply, and I pursued writing for a living. I LOVE IT! It fulfills me deeply, and I cannot imagine doing anything else for income – ever. Funny thing: I continually have people telling me that I need to be a counselor or something. I do really well in coaching, too.
This is just a great article. Thank you!
You are most welcome, writergirl808! I am glad to hear you embraced doing what you love after such a difficult moment, and that what it fulfills you so much. Thank you for you kind words, I’m glad you liked the article. 🙂
As a 43 year old African American woman i too have found that i love writing. Love it! What’s interesting to me is that when i was a child i always had my head in a book or drawing, and at some point wanted to be an artist. Until my dad shot those hopes down and blatantly stated that artists don’t make a lot of money. Their went my dream. And for the longest time i struggled with finding my footing until now. Now it all makes sense. That little girl who always checked out 20 books at the library, and creating stories has come full circle. Now i’m just trying to figure out in which direction should i go. However i do love perfume and have a good nose for it. But what’s interesting is that on the Meyers-Briggs i tested and found out that i was an INFJ-A. And that sales, is something i shouldn’t go in, bit when i took the career test my strengths were creation,and innovation. That i would do well in leading a team and marketing. Any suggestion would help. Thank You!
That’s awesome Badia! 🙂 Hm, perhaps you can combine your perfume knowledge and writing? Helping people make a good perfume choice through detailed descriptions and explanations? 🙂
My dream is to have a professional life as a creative (writer, nature photographer, blogger, artist, crafts, etc). Unfortunately, that doesn’t provide the health insurance I need for my family 🙁 Also, while I’m quite proud of my talents, I have a very difficult time ‘selling myself’ (promoting myself), as my low self-confidence and fear of sounding conceited comes into play!
I believe your dream is possible. It will be hard, but everything you will face on the road towards that dream is put to help you, every obstacle, ever bump along the road. All the other jobs are temporary, to give you that financial stability, until your dream becomes a reality, and it will. Keep moving forward, you will reach your goals, of that I am certain. 🙂
Great and very helpful article, thank you for this :)!
No wonder I quit my job as a journalist! Only now I understand it didn’t really suit me
(eventhough I love to write, but this was the only part of my online journalist job that I honestly enjoyed :)).
Now I’m a family therapist in the making and I can’t emphasize enough how much more I feel like myself :).
You are most welcome, Sara! Glad you found the article helpful, and I am happy your new job in the making, family therapist, is making you appreciate yourself more. 🙂
I have to disagree about Front Desk Clerk being a bad choice–it depends on where and what the purpose is. One of my favourite jobs I’ve ever had was working the desk at a backpacker’s hostel. As a traveller, I know how stressful it can be to arrive in a new city not knowing exactly where you’re going to sleep that night and whether it would be infested with bedbugs, and one of the best feelings is arriving to your home away from home and finding it safe and clean. I enjoyed giving people that feeling. Now, more than 10 years later I’m changing careers to tourism and hospitality!
Thanks so much for sharing your point of view and opinion on this, Erisa. 🙂 That’s good to hear you are entering the realms of tourism and hospitality!
This was very helpful, thank you! I’m currently in a customer service/sales role that doesn’t have any room for growth or learning and I definitely feel stuck and stagnant. I’m trying to figure out what my next steps should be to find a career better suited for me. I read on a couple other sites that INFJs have the hardest time picking a career because we see so many great options and picking one means letting go of so many others. This is definitely true for me. Putting money and logistics aside, I can think of a long list of jobs I would enjoy and feel fulfilled in. But I’m not sure how to actually get there. Do you have any thoughts on moving to careers that require more education? I’ve been considering some things like nursing that would require me to get a second bachelor’s degree, but I’m hesitant to put so much time and money into something I’m not 100% positive I’ll love.
You are most welcome, rebecca! I’m glad you liked the article. 🙂 Make a decision, this is how you start. Ask yourself, is this something I really love and will it be something I will enjoy? In the meantime, you can check out some online courses to keep your INFJ mind busy while you carefully analyze your next step. Remember, make that decision and build on it. Take it head on, and write down on paper all the pros and cons, that will give you a clearer picture of the whole situation. 🙂
Another inspiring article! I have been to many sites that offer mbti career matches, and some are found here too, but it is great have the infj perspective validated so thoroughly first ? At the moment doing an admin job that involves legislation, i don’t find it fulfilling but i love being an expert so that i can help coleagues problem solve. I’ve also done flooring installation and love the precision of working with my hands. I try to explain to family / friends how important it is to feel like what I’m doing really means / accomplishes something, as I get the most bemused faces saying “why work harder than you have to” or “no one likes their job get over it”. I think the way you describe the thought process reassuring. I think I want to be a writer, my friend seems to have noticed my skill one day and has encouraged me to do it (incidentally also infj), but I feel unqualified, do you have any advice to get started?
Thank you for your kind words, marcivic! Yes, I do have and advice. 🙂 Make a decision, create a plan, do a research how you will do it, write it down, and go after your dream! There are no shortcuts, but believe in what you want to do so blindly that everything that happens is only there to help you on that road. Believe in yourself, no matter what anyone else says and your life will never be the same again. Live your dream. 🙂
Now I understand why I love Psychology or being a School Guidance Counselor or having a career that relates to people.
That’s great to hear, Rozarrianne! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
I’m currently working with an excellent career coach. He’s the reason I found your site. My current job is soul-sucking, repetitive, unfulfilling, and physically painful (I’m out on disability now). I’m taking this time to explore better options. Btw, I loved customer service (both in person and on the phone).
I’m glad your coach helped you find Introvert Spring site, Curlieq55. And I am sorry you you feel this way about your current job, but you made a good decision to explore better options. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about customer service. 🙂
I work in the healthcare field. I used to work in different nursing homes but because of my infj nature I never got along with the people I worked with, only the elderly residents. I found home healthcare where I can go to the client home and work with them, and its been a blessing. I been working home healthcare for 8 years. There have been a few client family members that i didnt get along with and some that I have gotten along with.
That’s great to to hear judie that you feel good by working home healthcare. 🙂
I’m also a healthcare worker (Physical Therapist) and although I LOVE working with my patients, the changing face of healthcare is making me miserable lately. All the focus is now on meeting productivity standards and quotas. It often feels like I spend more time doing paperwork and documenting instead of working with my patients because we need to maximize insurance reimbursement. It has truly sucked the joy out of what I do and made it less about helping others and more about numbers. Plus I work in a hospital setting so constantly interacting with other healthcare worker who are also often on edge, overworked and stressed out themselves makes it draining for me.
I’m glad I read you response because I’m thinking that maybe homecare may be an area I look into to find more fulfillment in my career.
Hi Pat,
I am also a Physio, but have started to do my own mobile work. Similar to Judie, I go to people’s houses and do rehab there. I’m still new to it so am doing cover for other clinics to make ends meet, but it does take all the hospital and insurance paperwork out of it….plus you get the freedom to treat them how you want and take your time, instead of being rushed based on employer timeframes. It allows me to be more authentic and has changed how I see my role, much more fulfilling. I use to be a nurse so had enough of the hospital…once I became a Physio I just worked in Private practice and was happy for a while….but again I think the lack of advancement and creativity started to get to me…. I also found that although I love my clients, I love getting to know them on a deeper level and I like listening to their personal problems and supporting them probably more than their physical issues, so am looking at doing more holistic practice…not sure yet where that’s headed. We’ll see.
I have just recently discovered that I am an INFJ, and I am sooo happy I found out….it really validates how I have been feeling….I feel like I jump jobs, jump careers….especially once I’ve been there about a year…I feel like I’m not learning anymore and start looking for something new…..now it all makes sense. I always new I needed to make a difference as well, but the descriptions of the INFJ have been so helpful in understanding myself…..
I know this is an old comment but this is exactly how I feel! I am an occupational therapist who entered healthcare to help people. I found it very fulfilling at first, but with the changes in healthcare it now soul sucking and I absolutely dislike it, because the mission of every company seems to be money alone and not actually improving patients’ quality of life. I am now back to square one trying to figure out what career path I take from here!
Great article Marko! I am a philologist and also studied International Relations I never realized I missed the ultimate goal of having a mission with this. The desire to find appreciation from the outside world made me give up who I actually was and made me ignorant of what I was really good at. I’m now looking for the options of studying Professional Counseling.
Thanks Juls, glad you like the article! Don’t worry, you have the time, it’s not too late to find your calling. I am glad to hear you are looking into the possibility to study Professional Counseling, you got this. 🙂
Massage therapist. I’ve recently started working with the elderly. It is marvelous working with them, they are quiet, appreciative, and gentle people.
This is wonderful to hear Jan! I’m glad you are loving and enjoying what you do. 🙂
WOW its amazing how I have went through half of my working life and now just coming across this. I have done a lot of call center roles and i can definitely say it drained me. To the point when when got off work I didn’t won’t to talk on my own phone sadly. Now I’m back in that field only temporary. But thank you for sharing now I can focus on more of what is going to accommodate me and my well being.
I’m happy you found the article, Sharon! You are most welcome, good to hear you will focus more on what is good for your own well being. 🙂
Thank you for the excellent article and graphic. I’m nearly 60 and have finally found my way to being a spiritual counselor and hypnotherapist who guides NFs into thriving. Every other job has prepared me to do what I do now.
You are most welcome, Marie! It’s so wonderful to hear that you are doing what you love, and I am really happy for you! 🙂
I work at a bookstore. It’s my third bookstore job. While I love it, I do feel just completely drained from it though.
I believe that you can feel drained from it Angel, but it’s good to hear that you love doing it. 🙂
I’ve been working as a cook for about 19 years now and this year I finally had to go to 3 days a week because of all the stress. Particularly because of always having to be in such a rush and the constant interruptions when trying to complete a long list of prep work while food orders are randomly coming in the whole time. If I was able to just focus on doing the prep work it wouldn’t be so bad, but prep (only) cooks make even less than line cooks. I picked up a 2nd job landscaping, and the lack of mental stress in it compared with cooking is tremendous. But doing physical labor out in 90 degree weather isn’t exactly a breeze either. In recent years I’ve developed a love for plants and even after my worst days cooking, spending time with them seems to melt away my stress almost immediately. So I’m thinking about starting a side project that could eventually become a full time job where I germinate and grow rare/collector plants at home and then sell them online over Ebay. The same way I acquired many of mine. I’m still an amateur at it so I’d definitely like to go to college and study horticulture. But taking on all that extra debt while also having to cut back on the hours I work does seem a bit daunting. I’m starting to wonder if I’d be better off moving to one of those European countries where they offer free college education…lol. Forester also sounds like a career I’d enjoy, I’ll have to look into that!
I’m sorry Hayden you experienced this overwhelm at your current job. But I am glad to hear you are following your intuition (despite all the obstacles, but they are there to guide you), and starting to do something that will most surely make the difference and become great and wonderful! 🙂
I feel more inspired from your words.May God bless you sir.
I am humbled my words inspired you Sty, thank you! 🙂
Marko, thanks for a really interesting site. I took a personality test and got INFJ. My situation is kinda strange. I’ve been in the field of information technology – computers, software, the web, etc. – for over 30 years. The introversion aspect of it is obvious – taking a computer problem, developing an algorithmic approach, and writing the coding instructions are all solitary activities. There has, of course, been interacting with others – asking for feedback, giving status reports / updates, and so on.
But at the moment I feel like I’m in the wilderness. I had a 2-year contract with a major computer company and have been searching for a position since late March. I’ve been wondering if part of the problem is that it’s time for me to do something different. What are your views on information technology jobs/careers and INFJ’s? The industry in many ways has become less INFJ-friendly (expecting their workers to sell, to be managers, to live out of a suitcase traveling) but there are aspects about doing IT work I still take pleasure in. I just wonder if I can find the right place – or, if not, what should I do instead? I’ve been reading articles and visiting blogs like yours, and nothing has jumped out at me where I go, “THAT’S IT! THAT’S WHAT I WANT TO DO!!” 🙂
“Thanks, and now I’m gonna hang up and listen.” 🙂
You are most welcome Charles, glad you liked the article. 🙂 As far as information technology jobs/careers for INFJ go, they could be a good choice, provided they give you a chance to constantly learn and progress, as well as give you the sense of meaning behind it. One huge advantage is that you would be able to learn a lot due to the technology improvements that are coming incredibly fast, and that is like food for the INFJ mind. You will find what you really want to do, it’s not a question of “if”, it’s just a matter of time. 🙂
I have tears in eyes right now If I knew all I needed to do was to study “me” all these years. Making a difference comes first for me, whatever am doing has to benefit others. I have at least 2 charity organizations that I have registered the domain that I would like to start.I just know within me it’s not all about me, I am a voice!
My life is to serve and inspire others.
Thanks for this post, Marko.
You are awesome!
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Thank you so much for your kind words Ms Sunday. 🙂 I’m glad the article resonated with you, and I am glad to hear you can relate with making the difference, since it’s really one of the priorities of almost all INFJs. 🙂
Marko,
I would like to start off by saying I absolutely love your post ! I am a 22 year old female still trying to find myself in this huge world. I am currently a college student and I work part time at a radio station. I am a promotional assistant. Although I am an assistant I seem to be more of a therapist for my boss rather than an assistant. I have many people say that I am a great listener. I enjoy hearing about people’s aspirations and goals. Through them I feel I learn more about life. I am thinking I would be a great therapist, life coach, or counselor. I will be graduating in December with my Bachelor degree in Mass Communications and I am starting to feel like I wasted my time going into a field that does not suit me. I feel I would have to go back to school for another 4 years to be a qualified counselor or therapist. Any advice for me? Your words of wisdom are kindly appreciated 🙂
Thank you so much Lilly! I’m happy to hear you liked the article. 🙂 Also, thank you for sharing your story. Please know, you did not waste anything, what you have been studying was preparing you for the next stage, which is to be therapist, life coach, or counselor. Before I became a certified coach and an INFj writer, I was a journalist, event planner, announcer, and all these jobs prepared me for what I really love doing, which is what I am doing now. 🙂 Trust in the process, never allow anyone to tell you that you can’t do something, and follow that inner INFJ voice, it will tell you what you really want to do. 🙂
I’ve always been that “odd” girl. I feel like every. single. person. I meet tells me how pretty I am and then follows with how quiet I am. It immediately makes me want to cry because there is so much more to me than being quiet and it is so disappointing that that is all people can perceive. I feel like I disappoint people that expect me to be someone I’m not. Because of that, I’ve always pressured myself to “change”. Now I’m about to be 25 and finally deciding to just be myself. To LOVE the girl God made me to be.
I have been working in retail for over 6 years and I absolutely hate it. It has taken all my depression and anxiety and magnetized it to be bigger than I am. I did something recently that I still to this day can’t believe I did… I quit my job without getting a new one first. I don’t even remember the day; it’s like something came over me and I finally just couldn’t do it anymore. I don’t know why I’ve spent so much time trying to work my way up a ladder I have no desire to climb. Since I was a kid, I’ve always loved to write, read, and give people advice. I’ve realized that the only way to be happy in life is to spend my time doing something that truly makes me happy rather than watching a clock and chasing a paycheck. Now, I’m hoping to go back to school for creative writing so I can be a successful author someday.
Your article inspires me to love myself for who I am, follow my dreams and do what’s right for me. Thank you so much, Marko.
First of all, allow me to commend you on your courage and and bravery, What you did is incredible, hill, please know that. I’m so sorry you went through all of this in the past… But you decided to follow your heart and go for what makes you happy. If that’s not courage, I don’t know what is… Thank you so much for your kind, lovely words, they made my day!
Know that there is nothing wrong with you, there never was. You have a beautiful personality, and you are not alone. You are wonderful, just the way you are, and I understand and support you, fully. 🙂
Thanks for this article. About seven years ago I set up a picture framing business I run on my own and in some ways enjoy the autonomy you talk about, but when I work with artists I can’t help feel envious – they’re producing something original and rewarding and all I’m doing is putting a square around it! So there’s obviously something missing there. I also work part time in a sales position that is completely not me and I know it – in principle I can’t bring myself to sell people things I don’t think they need. Probably not employee of the month material.
I used to write regularly for magazines and newspapers, mostly human interest or art pieces, and thoroughly enjoyed learning and especially helping underdogs. I think a return to this is needed however I’m blocked by a persistent negative thought: “There’s no money in writing”.
I don’t know if other INFJs feel this, but what also brings me huge pleasure is putting people together who can help each other. Mentors and apprentices, people with similar interests etc… Being responsible for bringing two people together and witnessing the creative result fulfills something deeper in me.
Anyway, just some thoughts.
Thanks Tim! And thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! You’re right, helping others and seeing they further spread that help is really something we INFJs love to see. 🙂
Hello,
I appreciated some things you said. I love cars and working on them. Or anything mechanical, if I’m honest. But I struggle with the thought, “There’s no money in mechanics.” It has haunted me for a long time. I also don’t think I’d be satisfied working on random people’s cars every day. I’ve always wanted to own a custom builds shop, but again, there’s no money in that unless I’m the best around. Even then, I’d have to have a TV deal or something to make enough to support the business. I don’t like TV or reality shows. I wouldn’t do that to my business.
I also liked how you said you don’t like to sell things that you think people don’t need. I feel the same way. I’m almost done with my AA but I can’t seem to find something to do in the meantime that doesn’t feel degrading or beneath my skills. I struggle every day with the thought that I’ll never get out of the hole I’m digging. Anyways, I appreciated your thoughts and wanted you to know.
Thank you,
Shelby
I also relate to this, every career path I’ve considered has always consisted of putting something into the world when there’s already enough not it. This tradition of consuming just drives me crazy and the fact that even in my career path its so hard to escape it also overwhelms me. I still have no idea what I should be doing with my life.
I work at a sheet metal shop and it drains me so much and I am not happy at all there. Like you said, doing the same task daily takes a toll on an infj. I don’t know where else to work that will fulfill what we desire.
Ask yourself, what would make you fulfilled? What career would make you happy? Write them down on a piece of paper, just for more clarity and recognition. There is surely something that you would love to do, and that will make you fulfilled from within. 🙂
Do you think speech-language pathology is a good career for an INFJ? It involves working with many people though depending on the setting such as doctors, nurses, psychologists, teachers, parents, social workers, occupational therapists, etc. Also, do you think hospitals are good work environments for INFJ people? It’s a busy environment.
It sounds like a good career, taking our empathy and desire to make a positive difference into account. Hospital can be a good environment for an INFJ since it’s our main goal to help people, but be careful here. Our empathy, deep emotions, and HS nature in this case can play a reverse role (seeing people hurt or in pain it can really affect us because we want to help, but sometimes can’t).
Great article! I work in healthcare documentation. It’s important, meaningful work and I can do it at home. The down sides are it is repetitive and there is pressure to meet metrics. I’m always a little on the slow side. If I could relax and not rush, it would be enjoyable. All in all, I think I’ll stay with it. (Maybe I’ll write the Great American Novel when I retire)
Thanks Amy! And thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙂
Spot on article. I recently made the switch from Customer Service (?) to the Montgomery County Food Bank, and it’s changed my life. Meaning, innovation, creativity and problem solving. My advice: follow your passion. Money will follow. Not a lot, but enough to live a life you can be proud of.
Thanks J Tindall! I’m glad you made that change that created such a positive difference, and thank you so much for sharing a great advice! 🙂
I used to work as a receptionist for years and I would be drained at the end of the day. My job was boring. I did not fit in anywhere. Deep inside I felt as if I should be doing something meaningful. I am now a successful author. Two books published and I am presently writing my third book. I live with enthusiasm and purpose for the last 2 years. Charlotte
I’m so glad you found your life calling Charlotte, and that you are a successful author living the life you imagined! That’s wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙂
I just found out I was an INFJ, and it all makes sense now! For the longest time I thought I was an ISFJ, it wasn’t until I re-took the MTBI with complete honesty (and without overthinking questions then changing them *lol) that I discovered the truth! Thanks for this article. I am still in the process of trying to figure out what to do with my life. I have been working as a Registered Nurse for the last 7 years and it is definitely not a good fit for me. I’m am emotionally and physically exhausted. I have no passion for what I do, and I get no fulfillment from it. What my soul craves is to make a difference in the world through advocacy, and social justice. I just don’t know how to do that quite yet…
So happy you found out you’re an INFJ, Kd333! 🙂 Don’t worry, take one step at a time. You have all the time you need, and you will find what you really want to do.
I took the Myers-Briggs test in college and I found out that I am an INFJ. I have been looking for the right job for years. While I was going to college, I was working as a cashier in a grocery store, and I absolutely hated it! I dreaded going into work every day. Sometimes I would come home with tears in my eyes because of how nasty some of the customers were and the constant rush that kept me on my feet for prolonged periods of time. I quit that job three years ago and I felt like it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I am currently working part time as a page in a library and I enjoy working in libraries. Even though it requires a bachelors degree, I am considering becoming a librarian.
I’m sorry you had to go through that unpleasant experience Kristen. I know those tears all too well. But I am glad that you are now doing something so amazing, and you have my support to become a librarian. 🙂
Hi Marko,
Well, I don’t know where to start or what to say – I have only recently taken an online MB test and am astonished, feel so validated, and amazed at the uncanny facts that I’ve always known on some level but never were able to make manifest, i.e., my career. For Pete’s sake, I’ve been in law firms for 27 years and have been trying to get out of them for about 20 – I feel stuck due to finances. I am so NOT suited for the corporate world and now don’t know where to turn. Several years ago, I had an epiphany that I should counsel because I’ve always done that (strangers open up to me and my siblings have been trouble, trouble, and more trouble) and it seems to come naturally to me – being an old soul, I just “know” things and have from a young age. I also would have been a great nurse or private investigator as my intuition is uncanny. I have a brother with a mental illness that has taken so much of my energy for the last 30 years – it’s amazing I’ve done as well in my career as I have (and I haven’t even enjoyed it) – I am so tired of feeling repressed, depressed, unfulfilled and unutilized. I live in Atlanta and don’t know what step to take next – I’m sitting here at work typing this – surreal – I am not married and feel like I don’t have the resources to pursue anything new unless I had a mate or some drastic way to reduce costs. I know I’m rambling but I guess life isn’t over yet. Thanks for listening . . . oh, that’s another thing, I listen to EVERYBODY and while I’m not a huge talker, it would be nice to have people I really trust to open up to – I have girlfriends but I always go back to my career not being fulfilling and feeling like I may not be able to get on with my personal life until my professional life is more fulfilling. Does that make sense? OMG -help!
Sallie
Hi Sallie! I’m really glad to hear about your INFJ discovery, that’s amazing! I’m happy it revealed so much to you. 🙂 You still have time to pursue what you really want to do, it;s not too late. You owe that to yourself and to everyone you love to set an example how we should follow our own intuition. What you said makes perfect sense, don’t worry. Follow what your heart tells you, because the people who love you will understand, and you are not abandoning them. You are finding yourself, and you will be able to help them more in this process. Follow your own intuition and what you really want to do, write it down if need be. You got this! 🙂
Hello Marko,
Thank for your article. I’ve taken several personality tests and most seem to say I’m an INFJ, although one did come out as INTJ. I think I’m on the fence with it. I work as a federal law enforcement agent for a three letter agency and sometimes I love what I do and other moments I’d rather be doing anything else. The job involves much more time writing reports and administrative work than anything else, which actually came naturally to me, but has variety throughout the week overall. Despite everything I went through to get this job, I often wonder if I’d be better off doing something else, but I think many of my frustrations are due to working for the government, not necessarily the job itself.
Hi Tom! You are most welcome. 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this, and for sharing what you do, as well as your experience with it.
Oh my gosh Marko. This all rings so true. I have indeed struggled with inspiration in my work. The worst position I ever had so that of a construction foreman where I was encouraged to discipline workers daily ( mostly negatively ). I believe I have discovered some better vocations now, some of which are listed above. Having an humanitarian type of job is very important to me as I love to help people. I’m so glad I discovered the personality test for the sake of the insight it has provided. Good luck out there my fellow INFJs.
I’m happy to her the article resonates with you Ryan! Also, I’m happy you discovered better careers than your previous one, and not to mention your amazing INFJ personality discovery. 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing this!
Like so many others that have commented, I feel I share a similar story. I just recently took a personality test that revealed I am an INFJ. I felt like I connected a lot with it in terms of friends & relationships, but I did not agree with the career suggestions. I have been out of college for 7+ years in the printing industry, doing work from customer service, estimating, and account management. There have been aspects that I like, but generally has drained me. Growing up I was always one of the smarter kids and excelled at anything I set out to do. I was always good at exploring hobbies & interests. About to turn 30 years old and I feel lost. I look at my resume and I say who is this person? I know I am happy when I am creating something. Before switching majors in college to business (which I so regret) I planned to major in photography, but got nervous about what kind of career I could do with this. I wasn’t sure if I had the passion to make it my life’s work. Just recently I have been looking into doing a coding bootcamp to become a developer. Personally I am happy being on a computer all day. I like problem solving and again creating things. It seems to blend a lot of the characteristics I like in work into one thing (working independently, writing formulas, creative expression, logical) but I am nervous. I am picking up my life and moving to a new place, I would be without income for at least 8 months, and it is going to be a really really hard program. What are your thoughts on INFJ’s in this career profession?
Thank you so much for sharing this Concetta, and know you have my full support in the pursuit of what you want and love to do. 🙂
Bravo, Marko!!! Thank you for taking the time and putting effort into this article. Everything you stated struck a chord with me.
For the last 5 years I have worked in retail. I started off in merchandising (which I loved). I worked on the floor and as a backup cashier for 2 years, the equivalent of customer service. I hated it even though it gave me a full-time schedule. I dreaded going to work and was always stressed, angry and depressed. I felt like I was going to snap or die. About 6 months ago I went to receiving even though the hours can be extremely limited. While I enjoy what I do in the-back-of-house, I still need to move on because there is no room for growth in the company I work for and I know in my soul I have waaaaaay more to offer.
I’ve wanted to be an artist ever since I was 12. That idea was crushed by my mother who told me artists don’t make that much money. I know she meant well but what she said really discouraged me. I’ve come to the realization that any job I take should be fulfilling, otherwise, why do it? I’m not a drone.
So with all that said, I am trying to re-embrace my creative side. It’s been a struggle because I have 30 years worth of blockage to work through, but I’m trying. Who knows? Maybe I’ll add some writing in there also. I want to help people by uplifting them and encouraging them.
Thanks for being you – INSPIRING
Thank you so much Cat for your incredibly kind words, really! I’m so glad you liked the article. 🙂 You can do it, follow your heart and that creative side, you dream career is waiting for you, you got this! 🙂
Hi Marko!
I’m twenty-six and currently wondering what career I should aim toward. I enjoy my job now and there are definitely chances for advancements for me currently, but I don’t think working for a huge bank is right for me. I help colleagues every single day and it makes me so happy when others feel like they can rely on me, but I feel like there’s so much more out there. I really enjoyed this article and it it hits the nail on the head, honestly. However, I’m VERY into politics and have often wondered if I could make a difference in my local community and beyond, but it seems like that might be a career to avoid? I do see that scientist would be good for an INFJ, though, so I was looking into political scientist. Do you think that would be a better fit than a politician?
Hi Jordan! I’m glad the article resonated with you! As for the first part of your question, you gave yourself the answer: “I feel like there’s so much more out there.” 🙂 Follow that feeling, no matter what, it will lead you where you want to be. As for your second question, I think a political scientist does sound like a better position because it covers a broader field of your interests, so go for it! 🙂
Hello Marko,
I am an INFJ. I guess I’m more rare than that because I love politics. I love making a difference from the core out just like all other INFJ’s, but I want to do it on a much larger scale. I am a great singer but didn’t pursue it because I hate the spotlight. I don’t want to ever be the center of attention or the most noticeable in the room. I always wear dark clothing or something bland to blend in. This still doesn’t work. Despite all my attempts, people are still attracted to me. This makes everything much harder. Everything I do seems to be more complicated because of my personality. I have worked in customer service for 8 years. I love helping people and solving problems and doing puzzles. I don’t mind doing the mundane if it is for a purpose. I don’t have a degree and I can’t get anyone to give me the time of day. I’m not sure how to get the career I want if I can’t get anyone to give me a shot. This has been a struggle for a long time. My passion for cars, politics and singing seem to have nothing to do with each other. I’m not sure what else to do. If you have any advice, I’m all ears.
Thank you,
Shelby
PS: Sorry for the long post
Hi Shelby! No need to apologize, it’s okay. 🙂 Don’t wait for a chance, create it. Make a decision, this is what I want to do, no matter what anyone else says. Period. No excuses and not “but’s”. You already have everything you have within, just make that decision to start, action will flow by itself, you’ll see. It didn’t work out? Start again, and again. You know what FAIL means? FirstAttemptInLearning. Don’t wait for a chance, go after it. 🙂
Hi, I came across this while searching for any new clues to where I am headed. I feel very lost in life job-wise and feel out of place or like I do not suit any job that I can think of! I did veterinary nursing for a fair few years in between having kids, however that led to emotional burn out (from the depressing side of the job) and I just reached a point where I felt it was not for me anymore and had no confidence in myself to do the job after working with some horrible people in the industry. It involved ALOT of reception work and I absolutely hate answering phones all day and constant customer service. I did however enjoy the caring role I had and assisting behind the scenes not at the reception desk. After a separation of a 10yr relationship I took the opportunity to try and build my future for myself and my children and returned to study. I am doing a bachelor of science specialising in environmental science and so far am averaging above a Distinction after my first part-time year. I am so worried I do not see myself fitting in to any particular job still, and as a single mum I am taking a good 5-6yrs with very little money coming in to do this degree (as well as getting a big university debt). I wish there was something I could do in a course that is shorter and would lead to immediate work (rather than an unknown job prospect) but every career I think of, I can think of why it would not suit me. E.g aged care I know I am too sensitive to handle the sad side, same with nursing for humans. I don’t see myself in roles like childcare which are very draining and intense. I wish I knew my path, being an INFJ is really tough. I am more creative than mathematical, I enjoy doing my own finances but am not great with numbers in my head. I can’t see myself doing counselling etc as dealing with other’s problems would drain me as I seem to take on other’s pains as my own. I am concerned that I do not feel like a ”scientist” but I am on that path right now. I do enjoy working with computers somewhat and am currently waiting to complete some topics that are geography based work with computers/ mapping etc. I am crossing my fingers I find my calling soon 🙁 I definitely need to feel I have a purpose, the vet industry did provide this somewhat.. but the day to day cleaning, phones, and customer service really wore me down. I didn’t feel enough of that ”purpose”, it was over shadowed by everything else.
I just want to commend on your courage and strength and to tell, you will that career that will fulfill you. I believe it;s not easy, far from it, but just remember what you’ve been through. Let that be necessary fuel for you to keep moving forward and to follow your heart. You’ll find your calling, it’s only a matter of time, that’s all. Once more, I admire your strength!
I would like to thank you Marko for what you do. As for us, INFJs it is so important to see other people like us, to feel that we are not alone among all other 99% of people.
I would briefly describe my current situation. Maybe some of people who can understand me can give me an advice?
As long as I’m totally not medicine person, I see most of other INFJ careers to be of creative side, e.g. these are generally independent work where you need time to become stable. And most of time I see myself being a writer, singer-songwriter or craftsman. But still it needs time. Currently the problem is that I have debts and I work as a guide with the salary that is too small. If I change the job, most of options are the worst nightmares for me, like customer support or sales. Education sphere here in Russia is not so well-financed (in case of becoming lecturer) as well as national parks (forester). So, my dear INFJ brothers and sisters, what would you do in my case, when you need to find well-paid job and at the same time not betray yourself?
You are most welcome Petr, it’s an honor and a privilege to know I’m helping my fellow INFJs. 🙂 I’ll be direct on what you asked here and say. Be patient and not look at a side job as a betrayal of yourself. You’re not betraying anyone, you are only preparing so that you can do what you really want. This will not be permanent, because there’;s a purpose behind it. It will speed up the process for you to work what you really want to do in life. 🙂
Thank you, Marko! You make good work here. I appreciate your advices.
I do not write about not working at all, I just think about at least neutral job for INFJ. I mean, if now I need to find a job it should not necessarily be one of those 10 worst, but maybe something in the middle.
I lost my job in healthcare and vowing never to return. The work I did in the end was mundane and boring. I need to see tangible results in the work I do and know I’m making positive impact in the lives of others. I’m looking at human resources management for a career. The ability to recruit, train, and develop employees is at the heart of who I am, an encourager; modern day Barnabas.
I fully understand you when you speak about meaningful result through your work Ryan. I worked in HR area for some time, and looking the way how you described, I think you will do great! 🙂
I think you forgot teacher! It meets all 3 conditions! 1. It is very meaningful to help people learn and have more confidence.
2. You only stagnate if you allow yourself. With s new class every semester or year you get a fresh start and a chance to try something new. You also have new challenges with each class
3. Being in front of a group is hard for those who lack confidence but after doing it a while you get far more comfortable and confident. I am an INFJ college teacher for 4 Years now and love it more every semester!
Wonderful suggestion Kristin! Thanks for mentioning it! 🙂
Hi Marko,
Reading this made me…thoughtful. Been aware of my INFJ “diagnose” for about 1-2 year, and it feels exctremely accurate for me. I really am an INFJ. Anyway, the problem is my 17 year long carreer in building engineering. First as a kind of designer, then at the contracter. On the way I got tasks that I liked most, the responsibilty for the employees. Today I am a manager in a firm, but I almost always feels like it is a meaningsless job, unless I can help my “people” or changes someting at the firm. Of course I care about the money, but not like it is the money that keeps me motivated. So, what to to? I am 40 years old, married, house, kids and so on. Its not the best time to make the change. And change to what? I think I now, must be something that helps peoples lives forward. HR for example. Some kind of consulting. Maybe work as the building expert at a hospital?..
Anyway – loved this blogg.
Hi Sid, it is never too late to make a change that will make you happy. The number of years in your birth certificate is just that, a number. Ask yourself, what you make you feel fulfilled in your career? What change, what position, write it all down, it doesn’t have to be constructive. You gave yourself the answer, a change to improve people’s lives. 🙂 Remember, it is never too late to do what you really want to do.
Marko,
Thank you so much for this article. I’m at a point in my life where I am totally burned out in my career. I went to school for business and then pursued an emphasis in Accounting because I had no idea what I wanted to do. I was good at it and excelled in my Accounting classes. I had a professor who told me I should do it – so I did. I was the first to attend college in my family and I was always told I needed to do something practical, reliable and safe/dependable. So accounting and finance is where I landed.
I’m in my early 40s now with 3 kids and have been working in Accounting and Finance roles for 20 years. I’m good at it and have been successful, but I’m burned out and miserable. I feel like I’m going through a mid-life crisis and I’ve hit a point where I just don’t care anymore about my job. I find myself procrastinating because I am so miserable and overwhelmed. The only thing that keeps me from totally walking away from my job right now is loyalty to my wonderful manager and the fact that this job is the main support/benefits for my family. What I really want to do is write or be a trainer. I actually went through a very detailed Meyer-Briggs training with my team a few years ago and remember thinking it would be so fascinating to lead something like that training someday. Something where I can help others, feel fulfilled and be more creative!
Your article has helped me to see why I am feeling the way I do. I’m not sure yet how I’m going to be able to make a change – but I feel a big change needs to come or I’m going to just fade away or go insane. Sorry, this sounds so depressing – it is just a reflection of where I’ve been lately. But this article has given me some hope and understanding! I hate feeling this way and I hate how it affects my family and my whole outlook on life. A career change is definitely needed!
There is no need to apologize Angela, I am deeply humbled to read your words. Please know, you are not alone, you can do this! You are so welcome, I’m extremely glad my article helped you. 🙂 You have my complete support in your career change, and I deeply thank you.
I have not actually even been able to land a full time job since i graduated uni and I have no idea how to expand my skillset without that experience and I have no idea what I should be doing to begin with.
Since completing my literature degree I’ve been working part time as an in-house carer for 2 autistic teens who lack understanding that the rest of us have, they are not able to communicate through speech and also have behavioural issues, they can be very loud and vocal and even slightly violent and aggressive, they also often have toileting accidents as they need to be taken to the bathroom by someone regularly.
I know the family needs my help as it is a very difficult life for them and that should have given me some fulfillment but I feel like I can’t do it anymore. But I have been unable to find any other work.
I have considered human resources, counselling and youth work but would need to go back to university for all those things and I definitely do not have the money for that. I’ve also tried writing as I used to think it would be something I would enjoy but I’ve never managed to actually wrote anything. Nothing seems to come to my mind.
I just really have no idea what to do and where to start, I’ve already just been passing time and achieving nothing in the 5 years since finishing university.
Let me just say this. You are not what you do, saira. You don’t know what to do? Good. This opens up a world of possibilities for you! You can choose whatever you want to do! 🙂
It didn’t work out? Again Saira. Still no? Again. You have everything you need within and you will find what you really want to do. Start by making a decision. Dedicate your full being on finding it. Time passed doesn’t mean nothing, because you are still here, breathing and ready. I believe in you.
I’m a medical doctor who has specialised in Psychiatry and I’m now halfway through a Life Coaching diploma as well as working on writing my first book! Busy and exhausted but happy and fulfilled!
That’s so great to hear Eleanor that you’re fulfilled and happy with what you do! 🙂
This fills me with such hope and inspiration.
It is truly comforting to know that I’m not alone or going crazy because I don’t want to ‘work’ or change my mind about the career I’m doing/studying. I feel like I’m always going in circles and being quietly judged for it.
I am still trying to find what brings meaning to my soul. I am currently a stay-at-home mum, but I used to be a makeup-artist in a retail store (sales and competition more than anything else) and have worked A LOT in customer services. Soul sucking central.
I’ve always enjoyed the idea of natural and spiritual health (yoga teacher, dietetics, naturopath etc). Just haven’t made the leap yet.
You have my full support for that leap Kaila, and I’m so glad the article filled you with hope and inspiration. 🙂 You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you, there never was.
I enjoy your site and thank you for writing this article. My 2 cents: I would highly recommend you do not go into healthcare as an INFJ. I would like to save others from experiencing the misery that I am… our current healthcare system is set up in the interest of one thing and one thing only – money. It directly and powerfully impacts the daily service delivery of healthcare workers and contributes to a high stakes, fast paced work environment in which you are constantly juggling 28 things and interacting with other people non stop. No breaks and you’re always swamped which means no time to use your analytical, detail oriented brain. I truly feel healthcare is demanding of all my weaknesses and dismissive of all of my strengths as an INFJ. I NEED OUT!
Thanks, Angel! Glad you like the article, and so happy to hear you like what the founder of Introvert Spring, Michaela Chung created here. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience on this topic, I believe that the job you do can be demanding.
I used to work as a Security Guard for 5 years. 80% of the job sucked. It all depends on the location one works in. After gaining experience, I was able to work in buildings & hospitals. My duty was guarding the entire building alone. It’s meaningless, but it’s perfect for INFJ. If one can use a laptop & has internet access, which I did, the world is endless. I was able to do homework & during downtime since I was mostly a college student. I watched plenty of Youtube videos, read books, & talked to a lot of people on the phone catching up on life. Knowing what I know now & working from the corporate world, I would mind being a Guard forever. As long I am able to be alone & work on a side business to make more income. It all comes down to location & company one works for.
Great to hear Oliver your work gave you so many great opportunities, and chances to be with your own thoughts as an INFJ. 🙂
Hi Marko
I am currently working as a front desk and am really not happy with the job,am always depressed and worried,reading your post described me leaving nothing behind…….
I am someone in love with nature,children,helping people,love making people feel better,i even learnt how to do massages so as to make people feel better but all i do is learn,i never practice what i learn,i have always hoped to open my own themed park mostly with nature stuff but around here that i stay,that seems like the worst thing/place people will go. am just so stuck with my ideas in my head and the most unpleasant job in my hands,please what do you think i should do?
Hi Sylvy, this is the answer to your question: “I am someone in love with nature,children,helping people,love making people feel better,i even learnt how to do massages so as to make people feel better but all i do is learn,i never practice what i learn,i have always hoped to open my own themed park mostly with nature stuff”
You gave it yourself. 🙂 Your current job is only temporary, it doesn’t define you. What you wrote here, that’s the definition you determined for yourself, and that’s all that matters. Follow that calling and remember, the feeling you have right now will pass, and it will be replaced with the one you wrote here. 🙂
Hi Marco,
Thank you for writing this article. I recently found out that I am INFJ and I finally feel understood. I am currently in 9th grade and right now everyone is starting to talk about their futures. I hear people talk about the jobs they want to do and which jobs will make them more money, and I just can’t relate. All the jobs seem boring and pointless to me. I want to make a difference in the world. Everyday I see the terrible things that are happening to this world and the humans selfishness. The way humans treat animals (I am vegan), nature and other things. I want to help people or animals but I don’t think anyone understands me. I want to start my own company or invent something that will help. This dream seem so impossible to reach, but it also seems like the only job or career I could ever see a purpose in having. Do yo have any advice for me or what I could study in university to reach my goals?
I know that I still have 3 and a halfe years of school to go but the teachers are already stressing us about universities.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for writing this comment, Emma! I can tell you one thing. What activity makes you feel so fulfilled that you loose track of time? Whatever it is, nature, protecting animals, writing, reading, communication, it doesn’t matter, but that is something I believe you should pursue. 🙂 Your dream is not impossible, it’s just not in season yet, that’s all. You mention vegan diet and animal care, that’s wonderful (I’m a vegan)! You have a founding block already, now slowly focus on upgrading it. it doesn’t matter if no one understands you, what mattes is that you see this for yourself. One direct advice I will give you is, please do not allow anyone’s opinion to drown this beautiful goal you have. Pursue it, because on this road, your purpose lies. 🙂 You have my full support!
Hi Marko, After 10 years in corporate, I quit my job and am in nursing school happier than ever. Thanks for this post !!!
Apryl INFJ personality
You are most welcome, Apryl! I’m so glad to hear you are happy now! 🙂
Hi Marko,
Currently I work as a receptionist in an educational/examination body. I do feel what you say with regard to INFJ’s feeling unmotivated in such work, especially when there is a lot of external and internal pressure to keep up with.
Even on good days, it does feel like a challenge. But I do feel that I have to continue working at this temporarily to support the other things I love, like practicing of Kyudo and dance.
But recently, social work has been calling out to me since I took up a First Aid course, so I’m planning to take up a degree in Social Work. But for now, just waiting for the right opportunity and time to make that move.
And already I know that the experience in my current workplace, while occasionally killing me inside, will prove invaluable towards the building of my career, and helping to make the impact to others’ lives even greater.
Thank you for your article!
You have my full support Jeremy when that opportunity comes! 🙂 And while your current job may be draining, it is there to help you, that I can assure you. You got this, and you are most welcome!
I am a business systems analyst and hate it, but it helps support my family. I started down the path to Christian ministry and left it due to financial struggles and feelings of inadequacy. Now I have a mountain of debt in a job I hate. I need to find a way to transition to a more appropriate career without adversely impacting my family’s financial situation.
You will get through this, Benjamin. This will pass, you can do this!
Hello Marko, thank you for this amazing article. I am currently 18 years old and I am a refugee living in Lebanon. I am at my first year of college studying Chemical Engineers. Homestly I was the first in my classes at school and I was a valedictorian and scoring high on every exam no matter what subject it was. I was advised by my family and teachers to do engineers as I was good in math and sciences but I was vulnerable at that time so I went for it. My goal was to make a difference, I didn’t just want to exist, I didn’t want to live a life to pay the taxes, that isn’t me, my heart breaks in pieces everytime I see a person in need that I try my best to help but still I don’t have enough resources. Since the beggining of my college year, I was always doubting my career but what kept me continueing was the thought that a Chemical emgineer can make a difference in this world. I also had a 4.0 GPA. The thing is the doubt never stopped. After I got to know more about the field, I found out that a chemical engineer just calculates variables to increase the amounts of products. I found out that this is just not me. My parents will be disappointed in me and confused because my grades are high but the thing is you can get good grades if u work hard but that does not mean you will be happy doing it. I still have a month untill my first year ends and I cant focus to stidy for any of my exams which are next week. I don’t know what to do now. The purpose of life is not just to live but its to find something worth living for, the problem is I dont know exactly what it is right now.
You will make a difference, Elie. You are already making a difference. Just by writing all this, you are already making such a difference! I want you to remember what I;m about to say. There is nothing wrong with you, you are enough, you matter, and you are amazing, just the way you are! Follow your heart and what it tells you, even if your loved ones don;t agree with it. It’s okay that you don;t know what it your purpose now, that means you can choose it! 🙂 You have my support, and you got this!
I would also add that I think being a chemical engineer is super exciting, as you have the skills and knowledge to transform products to be much more environmentally friendly, and you can be a part of helping to directly counteract global warming as well. Yes, you could help some corporation make more profits, but you could also find a company or policy thinktank or government agency and apply your knowledge to making the world a better place for everyone – human, plant, and animal!
What do you think about the career of Nutrition, I’ve been struggling so much about what career to persue, I was so sure about Nutrition because it gave me a chance of helping others and having a business of my own, but when I started studying all the scientific and technical language made me wonder if that was my passion. I live in Honduras and the career opportunities are very limited they are mostly administrative or in health, living in a third world country as Honduras makes it even hrder to persue a career in social work, or phsychology because there are not so many opportunities of growth. I do know I want to dedicate in an area of humanities, helping others, listening to their struggles and just being a support is what gives me true happiness, but I don’t know what path to take. Should I continue with Nutrition even though the medical terms and the demand of the career is high, that is one of my other struggles spending all 5 years centered in just one subject, I feel like I wanna learn about everything or at least have time to develop other skills while studying but Universities in here don’t give you so much opportunities to work while studying you spend most of your time on the University and then going home to study. I need some guidance, I feel lost, I have 19 years old almost 20 and I haven’t even started studying, I feel like crap!, my other friends are almost finishing and I just feel stuck, I feel uncapable of achieving or doing certain things, maybe due to the fear. I have an opportunity to study in UTAH an associates degree in general courses+social media marketing and then tranferring to a university but it is a big risk due to the money that need to be payed. I don’t know hat to do
Hi Gabriela, follow your intuition. If Nutrition is something you want to do, go for it. Don’t compare yourself to others, your journey is different, and it’s yours. 🙂 Everything bears a certain risk, but please give yourself time, you got this. It’s okay if you don;t know yet all the answers, you still have time. It’s also ok to feel lost, because there is an opportunity for you now. 🙂 Follow your INFJ intuition and only compare yourself with yourself and no one else. I believe in you. 🙂
I think “programming / software engineering / development” should also be in the list. I was a military officer (pilot to be more specific) but i didn’t like my job. Now I know that it was due to my INFJ nature. I didn’t see any purpose training myself to be an instrument of war. Programming was my childhood dream. I was so passionate about it that I left the military job to be a programmer at the age of 29. And I swear I don’t regret it, in fact I made the best decision of my life despite suffering a huge financial loss. Now it gives me the peace and motivation I need – that I can change the world (or at least help someone) sitting in my desk.
Oh that’s a great suggestion, Touhid! I fully agree, programming / software engineering / development is a wonderful profession, thanks for sharing it! 🙂
This is has been a great read! All of it made sense as I’m currently unhappy in my career as an accountant and looking for a shift. I’m still unsure where to go next with career and hoping to get some insight. Do you have any recommendations for INFJ with an accounting background?
Thanks so much Sandi! 🙂 Hm, perhaps something in the realm of administration. Like an administrative manager/assistant, since these are the jobs that do not require interaction with large groups of people, but just enough conversation an INFJ would need, plus you have a lot of time alone in front of a computer. 🙂
Hi Marko,
I would love to be a writer, novelist, blogger, etc. I love deep, expressive thinking – especially when I can inspire people and interact with them in meaningful, life-giving, authentic ways.
Here’s my concern – I’m not sure what to write about, or even if I did, how could I make it a career that pays the bills? My kids’ college tuition? I’m scared that my monotonous, boring job now at least pays the bills – even though I dread it every hour of every day.
Advice? Thoughts?
Thanks.
Hi Vincent! Ask yourself, what is the one thing you are really good at? Anything at all, then write a couple of sentences about it. This will give you a starting point on what can you start writing about. You can make this like a side job until it starts paying the bills and enable you to make it a priority. Search for remote add jobs, and for the start, make it something that fulfills you, because the financial part will come, you’ll see. 🙂
I just finish high school and feel lost,I don’t really know what job will be good for me.Recently I have been thinking to enroll in digital marketing course because it is the cheapest course I can afford,but I don’t know if that is a right path for INFJ person. Can you give me some advice ?
Hi Rizky, don’t worry, digital marketing would be a good choice. 🙂 I was working for years in that department, so you would be focused on online communication, and just enough social interaction with people, so this is a good choice for an INFJ. You have my full support. 🙂
Thank you so much for your reply,I really appreciate your support.I hope someday we can meet and talk.Have a nice day sir 🙂
Hello!
I’m a recently discovered INFJ, and it’s been really interesting to learn about the type as I’ve pieced together a lot of personal growth and understanding over the past 1.5 years in therapy. My spouse and I had separated and decided to divorce. Not knowing what one is supposed to do in such a moment, I called a friend I hadn’t spoken to in 10-15 years who I knew had recently gone through something similar. He gave two pieces of great advice: feel your feelings; and get some professional help to understand how I helped create the relationship that was now ending (his point was that we are all half of any relationship, so that even if something ‘isn’t our fault’, if we want to create a different relationship in the future, it can be really helpful to have someone help you understand what you did in the dysfunctional one).
In hindsight, I am surprised – and heartened, I guess – that I have slowly been circling in on perceptions and worldviews that, near as I could tell, were things I decided upon and created in ways that sound very much like INFJ, LOL!
It’s been interesting to be described by a personality type that often ‘lives in our own world’, one that feels such a strong and powerful urge or connection to help others, yet (at least for me) has a simultaneous skepticism about close friendships (for lack of a better way to put it). It’s like I’m really grateful to help develop you and move your career forward, just don’t ask to ever hang out after work, LOL. It’s been hard to explain that dynamic to others – how it makes sense and isn’t mean or judgmental, that it’s just me being authentic. My guess is INFJs get what I’m talking about. Unfortunately, there’s so few of us out there, and I think we can pass through society pretty well socially that it’s hard to find community.
So, what brought me to this page is career struggle. I am very well educated (two masters degrees), but chronically underemployed. I’m currently a project coordinator at a largish senior living and services organization. On the one hand it’s incredibly great – I have an amazing boss who values how I think and gives me wide latitude to do what I do, however I want to. I get to read a ton of stuff, and help tease apart really complicated, complex problems – which is a ton of fun.
The downside, however, is that I’m the only person like me in an organization of 900 people. There are next to no people like me in our industry, and so I’m oddity in terms of payscale and getting my own team, etc. In short, they underpay me significantly because they have no idea what to do with me, other than they like the things that I do (but can’t really articulate why, even though I can, LOL). The hardest part lately, however, is that I’ve lost my belief in what I’m doing. I’ve been working for over two years, helping to navigate key people into the right perspectives and roles so that we can finally commit to the processes that will allow us to move forward into modernity and create a real difference for all of our residents and especially our staff. Nursing homes are a really tough industry, but there are such great opportunities for leadership and innovation. I’m tired of working alone. I’m tired of teaching myself everything.
And here’s the kicker – I’m 95% done with the requirements to get my license to become a nursing home administrator, and I just don’t want to. I’m afraid of failure, and I’m afraid of getting bogged down in the minutiae – which people here might relate to. But, it would double or triple my income, and it would give me a team and the direct responsibility to solve problems and make things better for residents and staff. Yet I’m dragging my feet, going on a year now.
Anyways, this ended up being my offloading my frustrations – I’m sorry about that. I appreciate anyone who has made it this far. I think I believe like I’m writing to a group who might understand what I’m talking about – how the thing that hurts the most is the loss of belief in making changes where I work, how I’m utterly bored and disengaged as a result because what’s the point (even thought intellectually I can make lots of very valid arguments and reasons). Innovation and culture change are still possible, and that’s what I want to be doing. I want to find out what’s possible, and I want the social balance an INFJ craves (helping others, but no one dependent on you). I excel at untangling big picture threads and strategizing the future – how do I do it?
Thanks for listening. Would love to hear any thoughts, observations, personal experiences, etc.
Hi Fjord! Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙂 I’ll tell you the exactly I needed to hear when I was in a position much similar to your own. This situation is only temporary and it’s no the end. The big picture you are looking for will find you, but you have to trust in your own path, where it leads you. This experience is temporary, your dream-career is there, it won’t go away. Just don;t allow this to stop you. Innovation and culture? You have a starting point, now add what would you love to do which includes that, anything at all. Give your mind a breather by writing it down. You got this. 🙂
I appreciate this article so much Marko, thank you. I suppose I’m submitting this comment for therapeutic reasons & also to share something maybe someone can relate to. I just discovered a few days ago that I’m a INFJ & what a weight lifted off my chest! I do a lot of self reflection (always trying to better myself) but in reading about my personality – I’m realizing I do not need to change as much of myself as I thought. In reality I’m just unique!
At 25, I’m currently miserable at my job, I work at a connivence store where customer service is number one. Over the past 7 years I’ve worked there, I slowly saw my personality wash away. Now, I’m this empty shell the hours leading up to / after work. I’m ready to move on but what has kept me there are rent & bills.
However, anyone else in this predicament, know that there’s always another way. I haven’t found my next job(s) but I can assure you, whatever you are in, it isn’t the only thing! Discovering this about myself has lit a fire that hasn’t burned in years. I’m beyond excited to know I’m not alone.
Does anyone have job suggestions for me while I go back to school? I have an associates degree in graphic design. I’m always in my head, constantly seeing the smallest details in life – so much so that I constantly have to write down any & all thoughts just so I have room in my mind on a day to day basis. I am a perfectionist – even with things I know are either a waste of time or out of my control. I love organizing stuff, I’m very nurturing & I enjoy giving advice. I love the art world but never felt like I could “keep up with the times” (social media) because I need to decompress & recharge A LOT. Thanks for listening if you read my comment, I really feel like I’m putting myself out there.
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Of course this comment took me all day to “perfect” LOL, have a good day all.
Thank you so much Stephani, and you are most welcome! 🙂 If I were you, I would consider a career in art field. From what I read here, you have everything that it takes to do it. You can start wit ha part time one, just to examine is it a right fit, and so that you have more time to think about it, and then slowly expand. But the field of art would be my first choice. 🙂
YES arttt – I’ll look into it, b/c I love creativity and aesthetics. Thank you for your time 🙂
I have been trying for years to find a career that is right for me. I don’t really want to go back to school as it has not been a return on investment for me. I have been doing customer service and administrative assistant jobs for years but would like to be able to make a difference and build into children’s lives once again. I have considered being a writer but have been told that it doesn’t make enough and that I probably wouldn’t make it. Do you have any suggestions, wisdom or things I could potentially look into? This article was very helpful to me in understanding why I have had so many jobs and am always looking.
Hi Sarah, I don’t know who told you you wouldn’t make it as a writer, so hear the words of someone who is one, and who never thought I could be one. And yes, I too heard that. You can. If it doesn’t start financially well, focus on having a part time job for the start, so you have that stability until you start earning from writing. And yes, you can do it. 🙂
How did you find a particular area to write about? Thank you for the encouragement. It helps a lot. Do you think that having a college degree is a must?
When I found I was an INFJ I asked myself what I really love doing, and that gave me an answer. 🙂 Write down several areas you really love to write about, that will help. No, college degree is not a must. I know so many writers without college who are making such a beautiful difference, and expressing themselves in an amazing way, so definitely not. 🙂
I am 25 and working as an Administration Assistant for an Engineering, very stagnant and boring. I am INFJ and have this need and want to help people, I really hate boring repetitive work, and I do agree with your article the work needs to be fulfilling. In my current work place I have gone through bullying and nothing was done to fix the situation, even though the bullying is being caused by Team Leader so this is making me question whether I want to be stuck in just an Admin Position. I did at one stage want to be a Counsellor and had undertaken a Diploma of Counselling but didn’t go further, also wanted to do Social Work but I feel Counselling / Social Work will equally cause emotional stress and I am not sure if I cant handle that. Do you think undertaking a Bachelor of Business(specialisation – Human Resources) and being Human Resources position is satisfying and helping? But it is still in a cooperate setting and not as emotionally distressing as Counselling / Social Work?
Hi Samantha, I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this… HR jobs can be grateful in a sense that a lot of doors are open to you, but its also very overwhelming. I was an HR manager few years back, and it was too much for me. It all depends is that something you would really like to do, but if so, you got my support. 🙂
Marko, in which way was HR “too much for you”?
Thanks!
Hi Alena! Multitasking was the worst, and I had to be constantly on guard, basically doing 5 things at once. It was extremely overwhelming and caused me a lot of sleepless nights… 🙂
HI SAMANTHA
I AM IN THE SAME POSITION.CAN I CHAT WITH YOU?
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HI MARKO
WHAT IS YOUR SUPPORT PROGRAMME AND HOW CAN I GROW UP MYSELF AND STRENGTH AND COVER WEEKNESS AND SO ON SUCH AS IDEALISM PROBLEM OR ANY OTHER MATERIAL , CAUSE OF JOY OF MY TYPE.
THANKS
Hi Saeed! You can follow this link and sign for a INFJ Skype complimentary breakthrough session with so that we can see how could I help you:
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Hi Marko! Thanks a lot for this post, it is a first step for me in my attempts to understand what I should do in my life. I would really appreciate your advice. I have graduated as a Master in Digital Communication (Media & Society), and looking for a job, though nothing seems like being “my thing”. I’ve found out that working with marketing and sales – doesn’t bring me inspiration and hapinness. How do you think, where could an INFJ work within the sector of IT, Digital or innovations to feel happy? Because of this frustration I am more and more thinking if my education was a right choice, and maybe I should change a path – but have no clue to which one.
Many thanks and hoping to hear from you soon.
Greetings!
Hi Alina! You are so welcome! Wonderful question! 🙂 Hm as for the IT sector, an INFJ would find themselves in our element when it comes to social networking, as it gives us privacy, but also gives us a chance to create meaningful connections online. So a form of community management for sure. Or a form of administration, working with documentation as a VR assistant. Hope this helps. 🙂
Hi marko, in the ‘careers to avoid’ section, you specifically excluded diplomacy from the larger ‘politician’ category. May i know how a career in diplomacy could work better for an INFJ vis-à-vis a career in politics? Thank you:)
Love this question Jashan! Diplomacy is fitted for an INFJ because we are peacemakers and focused on resolving conflicts. In politics, you can easily get into heated arguments and face a public humiliation, which is something we avoid at all costs. INFJs thrive on making peaceful arguments, which is why diplomacy career is preferred. 🙂
Yes, I understand! Thanks Marko for the clarity.
Thanks marko! I understand now.
Hi Marko.I literally loved this article.It fits so well in all areas of my personality that im speechless. I have just taken my bachelor’s degree in English literature & Academics but i realize now that i actually dont know what to do woth it.I cant find any job in the arts field since i love desinging/sketching clothes (self-taught but years of practice) & i love dancing or performing & i learn choreographies way too fast…anyway im better at expressing myself with about just anything but words so the only option with this degree is teaching which i hate it but on the other side i cant break through into the world of art which i love without formal experience or degree.Its frustrating because you cant make someone hire you bc you are passionate about something.And on top of that my family which never gets me thinks these are just dreams and will pass so i might just settle for a desk job in order to make a living.And i was also diagnosed with anxiety last year.All this is overwhelming. What should i do
Glad you liked the article Donna! 🙂 You gave yourself the answer here: “better at expressing myself with about just anything but words” 🙂 You can write down all the possible places where you can work using the written word more. Narrow it down as much as you can… I believe it’s overwhelming, but slow and steady, you got this, it will be okay.
As an INFJ, I had a 35 year career as a lead automotive collision repair technician and loved nearly every bit of it. Because of an accident at work, I am now looking at my options. Thank you for you article. I appreciate your insight and suggestions.
I’m sorry you had this accident, Ric… I hope it will all go well. 🙂 Glad you like the article!
My happiest job was as a civilian federal employee making sure military members were getting paid correctly and credited properly for military time served in another branch. I spent all day helping people and loved it. Unfortunately my husband is military and we had to move. Have not been able to hold down a job since because they all stress me.
Also, do you think being INFJ would make me a good foster parent
I can understand you about changing jobs, Luna. I believe so, yes. INFJs are natural protectors, counselors, and caretakers, so I think that an INFJ would be a wonderful foster parent. 🙂
This is FANTASTIC!! I recently retired from a 17 year career underwriting commercial insurance so I can pursue my passion – The Arts! Everything you described is on point in how I felt at that job. Actually now I’m hurting for money. Uber/Lyft, being a runner for Favor and donating plasma isn’t exactly paying the bills, thinking of maybe being a caregiver for seniors will help to supplement my income. I felt dead in insurance. Helping people and being creative with different mediums is what makes me feel alive. This article really helped to confirm I’m on the right track. Very grateful!!
I am so happy to read this article helped you Serina! Thank you so much for sharing this, you have my full support! 🙂
Hi Marko!
I just began working as a car salesman at a local dealership. I have been working in sales for about 3 years now, and have excelled at my last two positions.
I have always found it fascinating that I can be so good at something yet dislike it so much at the same time. I recently did a personality test and was reminded that I am a true INFJ.
Looking at the list of ideal careers put a smile on my face as I have had hunches that I would enjoy almost all of those careers at one point or another. My new job has an extremely corporate feel with very rigidly define roles, much more so than my last job.
I would love to be a writer, a counselor or psychologist or possibly a scientist. I constantly think of the current state of the world and how change is desperately needed.
I find I have this strong idea of what society wants me to be vs. what I really want to do. My greatest fear is that I will not make enough money to be comfortable and provide for those close to me if I follow my passions, as most of them would involve a lot of education.
I am scared to take the leap but everyday (especially at this new job) is draining me and it feels as though the longer I stay, the more I lose who I really am.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me Max! 🙂 Take one step at the time, and let this current job only be a stepping stone towards what you really want to do. It’s just until you are able to do something you really love. You got this, and you have my full support! 🙂
Purebred INFJ here. Lol. I am currently studying for my life insurance licence and I am ecstatic about getting into this field because it hits close to home. We need a purpose in all we do. When my grandfather, best friend and love, passed away 4 years ago, my family went through turmoil because his life insurance was not updated. Debt was incurred and family was divided just go give him a proper burial. While studying the objective is to maintain integrity and get the best product for the client. That means a lot to me. I also wrote my first book of poetry, working on getting it self-published.
Be proud of yourself, Dee! It took a lot of strength to go through what you did, and you are doing amazingly! 🙂
I’m currently studying for a language degree ( I would love to be proficient in german and russian ). Even though I love languages, I’m always indecisive about my future, since I would like to do something fulfilling and helpful for others. I thought about psychology, education but languages have always attracted me, I just couldn’t abandon them. So I started thinking about studying for a master in social business or international management in order to work for an international organization that help people. Do you have some advice? Greetings from Italy!
Hi Kri! You chose great fields of study! You won’t make a mistake whichever of these two fields you chose. Both of them are a good choice for an INFJ. 🙂 Remember, we INFJs love having meaningful conversations with people , but we also need a lot of solitude. Let this also help you with making that choice. 🙂
Hello,
I found out just yesterday about my personality type INFJ – I did two tests on different websites, and got INFJ on both. I now realise I made a big mistake of choosing a career. I’m 55 now, and have been in IT Support for 5 years. I’m a former classical musician, and because I had a hard time to make a living out of music, and because I liked technology, I decided to go into IT. I changed jobs quite often, and often was let go as I couldn’t keep up with the pace and had performance issues.
I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me, why I couldn’t keep jobs, despite being a dedicated, committed, always learning and responsible. Just now I’ve learned that customer service/support is not for my personality type, and that was the very reason, not because I was incapable.
When I was let go from my last job that meant to be permanent (after just 4 months!), when I couldn’t handle the difficult call and my company lost a client, I thought I needed to do something that would allow me to work for myself. I started to study Web Design and Web Development, learned Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator, fundamentals of graphic design, typography, colour theory etc. I was studying like crazy. I also built my portfolio website.
I’ve been unemployed for 8 months now, and still looking for a job in IT, as I’m not yet ready to start my own business or become a freelancer. Learning JavaScript now, as well as Entrepreneurship. I’ve found out that career in Design and Web Development is suitable for INFJs, and this time I think I’ve made a good choice. Hopefully, in the future I will be able to make use of my newly acquired skills.
Just wondering… why do you say that Customer service isn’t a good job for INFJ? I totally enjoyed it, once I figured out whose life I was making a difference in! In fact, it got quite exciting, because I kind of got addicted to solving problems for the clients and creating a welcoming space for my coworkers.
So… i’m trying to figure out what aspect of customer service makes it a bad job for an INFJ.
Hello Marko,
I have been in law school for 8 years now. Sadly I have just got the courage to admit to myself, it was never ever what I have wanted for my career to be. It was more of what my parents (both imigrants) wanted their child to be in the new world. I’m so sad about all these wasted years. I really look forward to write. That is what I have always done and loved. But it seems so scary to start from zero.
Thanks for your amazing content!
Wishing you all the best!
I am at a crossroad at the moment. I study urban planning but here in my country Architects do that job. I been accepted to do an MBA with a top univesity. But not sure which pass to follow. I can study for 3 years and become and architect but not sure if it will match my INFJ personality. Also, the MBA has a social specialisation that may suite me. Also I have a geology degree which I hated with a passion, that is why i change to urban planning with a strong emphasis in sustainability. My questio will be: Is Architect job good for INFj?
Absolutely amazing article. I have recently discovered that I have this type of personality and it has blown my MIND of how much I can relate to your story. I am looking for a job right now after jumping from job to job for years! I worked for a long time in the restaurant industry and I hate it! This explains so much of why I have felt so miserable my whole career. Every career that you listed to avoid, I tried to go towards, or worked in, but it never worked out. I used to be like that, crying and dreading putting on that mask to get a paycheck. My eyes are wide open and see a different perspective on my life. I really thought I was crazy all these years but it’s crazy how a simple article could change your whole mindset. Thank you so much for this article and I’m so glad you found your calling!
I am thinking about becoming a paralegal with a specialty in environmental law. Having a personality between an INFJ and INTJ, will this be a good career choice?
Hi Marko,
How exciting that you found your calling after a journey of finding yourself! Like others, I too have struggled with “what do I want to be when I grow up?” I’ve tried teaching children, compliance, sales, customer service, training, public speaking, etc., and though I enjoyed all of those, except sales, I still cannot find the perfect job or a job that would fit the requirements of humanitarian work. I would like to become a forensic psychologist, but, uhh, the schooling and time it is going to take. I’m 44, just found out that I’m an INFJ, still floundering and the lack of money increases the anxiety tenfold. It will come, eventually, and in the meantime, I’m feeling less anxious to know about you, and all the other people who share the same struggles as I.
I’m another INFJ struggling to find what it is that I want to spend my life doing. I’m 29 and currently working in the social media sphere. I used to love it when I first started but have realised I cannot grow in my company and I find my daily tasks to be repeating over and over. I’ve come to dread going into work because all I can see is myself stuck here doing the same thing for another 5, 10 or more years!
As someone who’s very empathetic and compassionate, I’d love to do something where I am helping people. But the thought of going back to university and piling up my debts to discover it’s not really what I want to do is so daunting!! Any advice?
I am 49, a yoga teacher and a marathon runner. I found yoga because of overuse injuries from running almost fifteen years ago. I love the practices, the philosophy, and creativity sequences. I completed my first teacher training over a decade ago. Upon completion I felt I had to teach because I invested a lot of time and money but I hate the stress of being in front of a class. It drains me and I didn’t know why until a couple years ago when I found out I am INFJ. For the last few years I have been a co-lead teacher for our new teacher trainers. Training and mentoring new teachers has been fulfilling, but instructing classes is another thing entirely. To be a lead teacher you have to practice what you preach, so to say, and although I love my students I feel like it takes more from me than I am able to give. Since the pandemic started I have been on break for almost a month. I could teach on-line, which is horrifying in my mind, so I haven’t. This time away has helped me realize I do not miss teaching at all. I actually enjoy being at home with my family, thoroughly embracing my time with my teens. I feel like I am the only one enjoying this right now. I have time to write and make jewelry while the teens take their online classes. I feel it is time to make a change. I am torn because I have invested a lot of time, money and effort in teaching yoga and I am not a young person. I wish I’d known a few decades ago why I am like I am and that there are others like me. I find your article encouraging and appreciate the suggestions listed. I hope to hear more from you, thank you.
Why would customer service be on the list of jobs to avoid when it does involve human contact and helping people?
Hello and thank you so much for this wonderful read !!!
I do see this post is a few years old, but felt a need to leave a comment.
I have known for years that I have an INFJ personality, as we are required to do personality tests to be hired in my current career. I am 42 and have been a 911 Dispatcher/Calltaker for over 15 years. It wasn’t until fairly recently I started diving into the details of personalities. I wish I would have started sooner as the information found has been such an eye opener. I do not believe that I would have done anything different in my life if I had a better understanding, however, I do feel I would have been more accepting of certain aspects of my life.
As a 911 Dispatcher/Calltaker, I immediately knew it was my calling. Yes it is chaotic and yes there is a lot of conflict, but being able to help people in their time of need is the most fulfilling thing ever. It is a thankless job and I am very much OKAY with that. I do not want nor need to be recognized. I am simply fulfilled by knowing my voice on the other end of the phone or radio can and has made a world of difference to others.
I have come to a crossroads in my life. After 15 years of doing what I so truly love, I feel my purpose at work has been completed. My responsibilities have changed and am now very bored. I beg my supervisor and other departments within the agency for extra work, as I do love data entry, but there is just not enough for them to pass along to me. I read a comment above where someone asked why customer service was on the list of jobs not good for INFJ. I too am curious about that. I LOVE helping others and that is exactly what customer service does. I suppose maybe it is because customers could be hard to deal with or because the job could become redundant to some and make it seem like there is no room for growth??? I have applied and had my 2nd interview with a company for a Remote Customer Service position and now just waiting to hear back. I am trying not to become overly optimistic that I have the job, but deep down inside I am jumping for joy!!! Everything feels perfect about this company and the people within it! Maybe there are just a handful of customer service positions that are suitable for us, but I truly feel that it is all about the company, people, and product that you will be representing that will make or break a customer service role. Meeting with my potential supervisor and 2 others on a video interview, it was like we were already acquainted. It was the most comfortable interview I have ever had and the feeling of belonging was there. I also approve of and have faith in their products. I feel that my training as in a 911 setting has enabled me to be able to handle the most difficult customers. Empathy can be very influential 🙂
Up until recently, I never ever dreaded going to work. When I was asked in my 2nd interview why I am looking to leave 911, I explained how I am no longer challenged in my current position and need to be helping others. Compared to the hundred plus calls a shift I am use to taking or the constant radio traffic from the field units, I currently answer 3 or 4 calls and maybe speak on the radio every 20-30 minutes.
To all my fellow INFJ’s who are struggling internally with their career, it is very very true when Marko speaks on what a true calling feels like. Hang in there and don’t give up!!!!
We have a unique set of traits and when that right job is available, it will present itself!!!!
You know what, I am a writer but still I am not satisfied with my job. It’s not that I do not like the job but still feel like something is missing. Can you help me with this?
I can’t figure out what is missing. how, how, how…
I am a Social Worker. I have always felt I was a “born social worker.” However, my issue remains with finding the right social work path for me. It seems that everywhere I go, either the system in place is ethically flawed or the work being done feels inadequate and even fraudulent at times. I struggle with feeling that what I am doing is helping instead of hurting in these situations. I appreciate the words you have spoken and I look forward to following you and learning more from your wisdom. 🙂