I’m writing to you from bed today. Mainly because it’s the weekend and because I can. I’m sharing another strange little introvertism I hope you’ll be able to relate to. It has to do with going out to eat or run errands. Allow me to explain with a quick reference no one under twenty-five will get.
Another strange introvertism
Remember the theme song from the television show Cheers? It goes like this…
Wouldn’t you like to get away?
Sometimes you want to go
Where everybody knows your name,
and they’re always glad you came.
The first part is very true for introverts, we tend to like to get away. But as for the rest? Typically, I like to go to the place where no one knows my name. Even if —especially if— I’m a regular at a restaurant, I still like to feel anonymous.
I realized this the other day when I felt tempted to avoid a lunch place I frequent because I knew the owner would recognize me.
When I go there for lunch, I’m usually still in introvert mode, or just very hangry. I pray that the owner won’t be around so I can slip in and out without him noticing me.
It doesn’t make any logical sense because he doesn’t even say much to me. He just gives me that “welcome back” look and asks how my day is going.
But I think as a fellow introvert you’ll understand that there are times when you just want to put on your invisibility cloak.
You want to go to the place where no one knows your name and eat in sweet anonymity. And that’s perfectly okay because we can’t be “on” all the time.
Introverts need pockets of solitude in our day so that we can be at our best. That doesn’t make us anti-social or shy. In this crazy world we live in with all its flashing lights and busyness, it’s natural to be a little self-protective.
Do you feel the same way? Feel free to let me know by replying in the comments below.
Even thought we introverts want to be invisible sometimes, we also want and need human connection. But we need to socialize in a way that honors our introverted needs.
That’s why I’ve started a new website that will help you to do just that! It’s called IntrovertSocialSkills.com, and it’s the place to find smart conversation and connection resources for introverts. I’ll be posting new articles there starting this week. For now, you can hop over and grab my free Introvert Conversation Cheat Sheet.
I hope you have a loverly weekend, innie friend.