It’s that time of year when most of us are acutely aware of our relationship status. Whether you’re coupled up or single, knowing your MBTI relationship matches comes in handy.
Before I introduce you to your matches, which I’ve compiled in a colorful new infographic, I want to let you in on a little secret.
Your MBTI relationship matches aren’t rules for your love life to live or die by. This is love we’re talking about after all! Matchmaking — even when the matchmaker is the MBTI — is more an art than an exact science.
There’s no need to dump your fiancé because he didn’t make the cut on your MBTI relationship matches list. There are always exceptions, dearest. As comedian and actress Charlyne Yi puts it:
“Compatibility is weird. Love is confusing. Love is one wild beast.”
Okay, now that we’ve got that little caveat out of the way, let’s be honest.
It’s really nice to have some guidelines surrounding compatibility. After all, no one knows what lottery ticket is going to be the winner. But it sure is nice to understand the odds before you invest your hard earned money in a ticket.
Knowing your MBTI relationship matches gives you a better idea of your chances in the love lottery. Sure, you could beat the odds, and find love with an unlikely match. But you could also discover that the MBTI did not lie. Sometimes, the Myers-Briggs can help predict relationship compatibility with eerie success.
Now you might be wondering …
How does it work?
How exactly does this Myers-Briggs thingy determine your matches? Allow me to explain.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator designates 4 “functions”:
Each function has a direction or “attitude”, which is either Introverted (I) or Extroverted (E).
Every personality type (including yours!) has a dominant function. For instance, the dominant function of an INFJ is Introverted Intuition, whereas for an ISTP it’s Introverted Thinking. According to experts, we tend to fit best with personalities who share our dominant function, but use it in a different direction.
For example, someone with dominant Extroverted Feeling would get along best with someone who has dominant Introverted Feeling. Like I sad earlier, there are always exceptions. We are all unique butterflies, after all.
How accurate are the MBTI relationship matches in real life?
As an INFP, the charismatic ENFJ is #1 on my list of MBTI relationship matches. Apparently, the ENFJ’s dominant function of Extroverted Feeling is highly compatible with my Introverted Feeling dominant function. This makes sense on paper, but how does it play out in real life? Well.
It just so happens that I have dated a couple of ENFJs. To be fair, I can see why the good ol’ MBTI would match us up. I actually got along very well with this type … for a little while.
But to be honest, I didn’t like the dominant nature of the ENFJ as a partner. I have a pretty strong personality myself, and I felt like I had to revert to a more submissive role for the relationship to work. Also, the ENFJ need to have an audience exhausted me — especially when the audience was made up of me, myself, and I. So, my perfect MBTI relationship match was not so perfect after all. But the MBTI has been right in other cases.
Take my friendship circle, for example. Most of my female friends are ENFPs and ENFJs, and we get along swimmingly. I also have a healthy handful of INFJs in my life. All of the above types are considered ideal MBTI relationship matches for an INFP like me.
Are you ready to discover your best MBTI relationship matches? I’ve put all the innie matches together for you in a brand new infographic, which you can share on social media, or download and print for future reference. Here it is:
I’d love to hear your experiences
I’m dying to know how your MBTI relationship matches have panned out in real life. Are you, or have you ever been, in a relationship with your ideal match? Were you actually compatible, or not so much?
Please do share your insights and experiences in the comments below.