I’ve always been better at communicating in writing than in conversation. It turns out that this is a trait shared by most introverts.
We innies tend to write better than we speak. Words pour out effortlessly onto the page (or the computer screen nowadays). But in conversation, it can often feel like there’s a traffic jam in the pathway between our mind and our mouth.
We know the words are there, just within reach. And yet, we just can’t spit them out in time. Or as smoothly as we’d hoped.
When I was in high school, I remember feeling SO frustrated when my classmates underestimated my intelligence because I wasn’t good at sounding smart. All of my essays received top marks. But when it came my turn to speak up during group projects, it would sound like this:
Ummm …. well I think because … it seems like … in this case … [completely forget what I want to say] ummm …[LIGHTBULB FLASH – I remember my brilliant point] We should definitely explore –
[Get interrupted by the loud guy who’s really good at sounding smart, but is mostly full of shit].
Fortunately, with practice, and more confidence, anyone’s conversation skills can improve. Mine definitely have. I bet yours have, too, if you think about it.
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This is totally me, help!
I really need to be apart of a group of people that understand me. I habe been reading this articles and i am seeing myself jumping out at me.
I am always a victim of the “Wow, you text in paragraphs, but you never speak!?” because I do write a lot in texts, but am usually not as talkative in person or on the phone. I can’t help but remember during the summer between my freshman and sophomore years of high school, I had begun messaging a boy that was in my grade over Facebook. We chatted a lot but when we got back to school, we just waved to each-other in the halls then chatted after school. Even now I chat on IMVU and sometimes I end up taking skype calls from friends that I’ve known for a while. Everyone always seems so shocked at how quiet I can be. I like to call it one of my charms though, hehe.. c:
My friends laugh at me because when I text them I tend to write an essay!! It’s so easy to text. The problem is, they end up phoning me and saying, “I just thought I’d ring. Y the time I’ve texted you, I might as well just phone and say it!
I’m cursing to myself that I was quite enjoying the texting, why did they have to go and phone me!!
That explains why I am proud of my blog “Foreign Love Web”.
Extroverts speak better than they write…I guess.
Just last week, I took a bit of where I wrote about me being an introvert on the About page of my blog because I thought people would think am just too weird, lol.
Writing is like food for me even despite the fact that I just started blogging just over a month ago. My 10-year-old son told me to email him a piece of information I could verbally give to him, Am like, oh gosh! Am I raising an introvert like myself? Trust me; I do not like talking on the phone especially when it’s about other people, it drains me out. Finding a site as this feels great, I feel at home! I am not the only weird one in the world after all.
I wanted to say thank you so much for this. I plan on doing the course next month. You’re right, it is extremely frustrating when the words are right there and you can’t get them out. Unfortunately, many people do take that as not being as smart as the loud smart-sounding kid in the next desk over stealing the spotlight.
I always say give me a pen and pencil and I can captivate you with my words, have me speak and I sound like I don’t know what I am talking about. Never judge a person due to one area of struggle in their life. They just might surprise you in other ways.
Being an introvert is hard. I am so happy you took the time to create something to help people overcome shyness and boost confidence. You are awesome!
Nonetheless, you can still find particular activities that have a lower house
Do you think it is confidence or a mental-to-speech faculties deficiency? I enjoy writing (words flow), have confidence in my abilities, and an extrovert. But when engaging verbally, I’m not as brilliant.
Someone told me that if I can’t express it clearly, I don’t understand it. The subject had ambiguity due to missing information. I think I’ll have a talk with them about writing it down if they don’t understand what I’m saying. It’s a little frustrating, because I understand many things but can’t express it well with words.