There are some things that only INFJs understand. We are rare, and others just don’t get our unique experiences. I know, I get it, I’m an INFJ, too, and sometimes I feel like no one understands what I’m going through. That’s why, in a rush of emotions, I’ve gathered several experiences that only INFJs can understand.
6 experiences only INFJs will understand:
1. We always care.
INFJs always care, we can’t help it. An INFJ will even risk his or her own well-being in the process of caring. But all too often, people take advantage of this and we end up getting hurt. A classic example is when we believe we are annoying someone we cherish by caring too much, so we feel guilty (and overthink it), which brings me to my next point …
2. Inner Guilt.
I’ve been overcome with guilt more times than I can count. Only INFJs will understand this inner feeling because it has a unique meaning for us. When you send a message to your friend, you might feel guilty and think you are bothering him or her. Or when you believe you said something wrong, you spend days repeating the scenario over and over again in your mind.
Even when everything is going well, our INFJ mind actively seeks for ways to sabotage things. It’s like our brain looks for a self-destruct button when experiencing happiness. It’s the same old story when we accomplish something. INFJs have a bad habit of putting down our own success because it’s strange to us that things are actually going well.
4. Loneliness in a group.
No one else will understand this experience better than an INFJ. It’s known to many, but understood by few. INFJs are walking paradoxes because we feel lonelier in a group than when we are alone. It’s not the lack of company that troubles us, but rather the feeling that no one understands us.
5. Rarely opening up.
INFJs don’t like being vulnerable. Because we have a savior mark imprinted on our heart, opening up to someone is hard. Don’t confuse this with being arrogant, it’s just a consequence of being hurt so many times that we are scared to go through it again. Opening up for us is an achievement.
6. No middle ground.
If you’re an INFJ like me, then you know that the term “balance” doesn’t exist in our vocabulary. No matter what area of life — relationship, job, or personal development — we either go all the way or not at all. This is because we are idealists obsessed with progress. We will blindly follow what we believe in to the point that it will even catch the people who know us of guard.
The commonality between these experiences, is that only INFJs understand that they start from within. The outside world simply doesn’t get us, so I wanted to shed some light on several inner events that I know you’re all too familiar with. Now before you go, read this last paragraph carefully, because I poured a lot of INFJ emotions into it.
Understanding starts with you
No matter how much pain you face, there’s always going to be someone who will understand. I’ve never met you and I have no idea what you’re going through right now. But what I do know is you are not alone. All INFJs know how you feel.
Before you set out and plan your day, let this thought sink in: Uniqueness and experience go hand in hand. Even though not many will see the world as you do, there are those who will. You are an INFJ for a reason. This is why these experiences only INFJs will understand serve to remind you that loneliness and misunderstanding are not a burden. They are there to remind you that you are meant for greatness, to stand out and make a difference! <3
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What about you?
Have you faced an experience only an INFJ would understand? How did it make you feel? Share your comments below. I would appreciate your thoughts on this topic! ☺