3 Hidden Reasons INFJs Wear Masks - Introvert Spring

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How many times have you worn a mask? Try to think of an event, social gathering, or even a simple outing when you felt it was better to pretend you were someone else. One of the biggest pains of our INFJ personality is that we are often forced to wear masks. Whether this is because we want to fit in, or don’t want to be called weird, hiding our true colors is as painful as it gets for INFJs.

INFJs and masks go hand in hand

Those of you who follow my articles on Introvert Spring know that before becoming a writer and a certified coach I was an event organizer and a public relations manager. Most of my days back then were filled with meetings and crowded conference halls. I was constantly talking to people all day long.

As overwhelming as my previous career sounds, it was something I liked before finding out who I really am. I got to meet incredible people and had a chance to learn from those wiser than me. But there was this thing that made me quickly forget about the good and feel only the bad.

My past calling required me to wear a mask. This alone made me feel extremely lonely and I had no idea how to overcome that loneliness. It didn’t matter whether I was sick, tired, or sleepless, because when an event was being held, I had to smile and talk until I couldn’t talk anymore.

Not to mention the terrible situation I found myself in where I knew if I quit, finding a new job in Serbia would be close to impossible. So, I wore a mask, and I had to learn to live with it. I still get the shivers when I remember that time. Because of my experience, I wanted to share a secret with you.

You don’t have to pretend to be something you’re not

Nothing matters more than staying true to yourself my dear INFJs. I found an excuse in the fact that I woudln’t find another job, which of course is not true. But I convinced myself that was the case.

I don’t want you to go through what I had to. So, I made a list of three eye-opening reasons why INFJs wear a mask, so that you can recognize when it’s time to embrace and accept who you are.

1. We want to fit in.

You’re not meant to fit in. You are meant to stand out from the crowd and create your own path. But INFJs want deep connections, so we wear a mask to blend in. Believe me, I tried fitting in and it made me feel miserable. There is nothing wrong with being the outsider and living a life only you understand. It’s actually something most people only dream of.

2. We fear that we’ll never find “the one”.

I can name 50 INFJs who have toxic relationships and have to wear a mask every day in order to survive. We know we are rare, so that makes our search all the more difficult. I promise you, when you take off the mask, the right person will find you! 🙂

3. We fear that we’re not enough or too much.

This is one of the primary reasons why INFJs wear masks. We are tired of being rejected, so instead we pretend to be someone we’re not. Few emotions in the life of an INFJ cause us more pain. It’s like a never-ending costume party where you can’t take the costume off. Just a gentle reminder, for the right people, you will never be too much or not enough. Just like with potential partners, friends who are meant to stay in your life will accept you for who you are.

I hope all the reasons why INFJs wear masks I named here will help you to be gentle with yourself when you notice them. Don’t be ashamed if you are hiding your true self from others. Just remember that there is nothing wrong with you. There never was.

The greatest advantage the INFJ personality has is that even if you wore a mask all your life, you can still take it off, shine, and show who you really are at any given moment. If you are having problems with that, please take a look in the mirror after you finish reading this article.

What you see is a gorgeous butterfly that only needs to shed its caterpillar exterior and show the inner light that you as an INFJ always had. There’s no need for you to wear a mask, because you are already enough just as you are. <3

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Do you wear masks too?

How does this make you feel? I would love to hear your experience with this! Feel free to share what you think in the comment section below.

Love,

Marko

Marko Kircanski INFJ coaching