If you’re an HSP, empath INFJ like me, then you know how overwhelming winter can be. Sure, it has certain charms. But combine the pressure of socializing, constant cold, and depressing weather, and it’s no wonder this is a time of year many of us want to fast-forward through.

Winter is not my favorite season anymore

Those of you who read my articles know how much I praised winter as my favorite season being an INFJ. I even went so far as to say that I wouldn’t mind having cold weather non-stop. But I realized that, while I do enjoy having a hot chocolate and playing video games while there’s a blizzard outside, I yearn for the sun and the hot weather.

Winter is kinda like socializing for INFJs. We prefer to have it in short doses, and while we enjoy it, our energy levels are depleted if it stays for too long. I am a hugely independent person, so when my movement is limited by something like weather conditions, I become restless and cranky.

The biggest issue I have with winter is the inability to recharge, as there are so many activities (gatherings, end of the year preparations, etc.) that my batteries are running on fumes.

So, you don’t feel depleted and overwhelmed like I did, I’ll share with you four relaxing ways to recharge during the winter as an INFJ.

1. Make a silly social plan.

Play a game with yourself. Make a funny list of two columns: “Nope, not happening” and “Sure, why not”, including where you want to go, and what event you would like to avoid. This can help you immensely, as it releases that pressure that you need to go somewhere. Plus it’s fun. 🙂

2. Buy another pair of pijamas.

Okay, so this is something I’ve done for three years now. I have a mini collection of five PJ’s that I use during the winter. It sounds ridiculous, but such a small action as buying a piece of clothes can remind you that you are an INFJ that plans to recharge and dedicate some time to self-care this winter. Plus, PJ’s are comfy.

3. Play video games.

I can’t be objective here. I’m a passionate gamer, but I found this form of entertainment is incredibly relaxing. Especially when you are overwhelmed. Also, this is one of the rare forms of relaxation that help me lose track of time completely. Try it out, you might like it.

4. Spend time with your closest friends.

Some people deplete us, but there are those who recharge us. Few in numbers, these kind souls nourish our INFJ minds with meaningful talks and amazing jokes. They give us the gift of peace during the chaotic winter months. Spend some time with those wonderful people.

How your winter passes is entirely up to you, my INFJ friend. You can spend it constantly overthinking what others may think, or you can choose to go and do your thing. I always say that the ones closest to us will understand our need for solitude and alone time.

But in order for that acknowledgment to happen, there’s one thing you need to do.

Create winter boundaries

Having healthy boundaries is crucial for INFJs. This alone can determine whether we will be burned out by someone’s actions or words, or have the courage to stand our ground. Establishing a boundary is one of the best ways that you can have a relaxing winter as an INFJ, and not feel like you’re carrying a huge bag of rocks on your shoulders.

Relaxation for us is not just about having fun activities. It’s also about knowing when we need to give some time to ourselves without guilt. You are not hurting anyone by saying no. As a matter of fact, this will bring you more peace and stability to your life.

As INFJs, we need to take care of ourselves, so that we can truly enjoy the winter. Remind yourself that you don’t owe anyone anything. It’s okay to reject an invitation, and it’s sure as hell okay to skip a date or a meeting if you know it will burn you out.

Our personality type thrives on being there for others but you earned the right to relax and recharge. This is the right time to do it. Just don’t forget to have some fun, and enjoy the present moment, too. 

You are not alone

Maybe there aren’t many people who get how hard it is to be an INFJ during this time of the year, but you can be sure there are those who understand.

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How do you plan to relax and recharge this winter? Feel free to share your comments below, I would love to hear from you!

Much love,


Marko Kircanski INFJ coaching