Hi INFJ friend,
I’m writing to you from a very special place today. It’s a location well known to the INFJ personality, one where we often seek refuge: our mind. However, it can be pretty chaotic in there. Trust me, I know.
Think of the INFJ mind as an internet browser with 50 tabs opened and dozens of applications running at the same time. But where there’s chaos, there is the opportunity for order and planning. And planning is where INFJs excel.
I Plan Everything
It’s almost unthinkable for an INFJ personality to leave something to chance. Sure, we know how to improvise, but we’re in our own element when we carefully plan our course of action. The best example of this is our future and where we want to be. We are idealists, so what lies ahead is our primary focus, especially planning for it.
I have yet to meet an INFJ who wants to live day by day. Planning is a part of who we are. Let me give you my personal example not many people know about.
There’s this journal I’ve had for two years now. In it, I write my goals. But these are not just some random scribbles. In this journal, I plan my next steps in life, months and years in advance.
Because of our visionary trait, it’s not that hard for an INFJ personality to “predict” our own future. It’s partly because when we decide to do something, it will be done, period. It’s not a question of “if”, it’s just a matter of time. And for INFJs, there’s no better time like the future, and no dream bigger than discovering our calling.
For the INFJ personality, there isn’t a more important goal than knowing what our purpose is. But because middle ground is an unknown term in our dictionary, we tend to either overdo it with organization, or endlessly procrastinate. We need to find the right balance, or we will overwhelm ourselves. See, here’s the thing.
For the INFJ personality, it’s all about fine-tuning
The key to improve the purpose search is adopting that fine balance between planning and letting go of control. When you achieve that equilibrium, you are halfway there.
Plan what you can, but always leave space for the unexpected to happen. Your purpose search is not a highway; it looks more like a forest road with a lot of smaller paths.
Organize every action you can, but don’t overdo it. Chaos can be an ally, because it gives our INFJ mind a chance to see things from a different perspective, one we may have missed.
Reaching the place of your dreams needs to be a careful endeavor, but letting go of control once in a while is necessary. Not everything is meant to be controlled.
Like Yin and Yang, finding your purpose is all about balancing the opposite sides.
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I can so relate to this article, Marko! I seem to want to plan everything and, if it doesn’t happen, I get upset about it. Thanks for the reminder that we need to be flexible, too, that things come up and life happens.
I’m glad to hear you can relate, Tiona! You are most welcome, and I fully understand you. 🙂
Marko, where i could find the guide ebook for INFJ? Thank you so much!
Hi Lutrovert! When you sing in to our INFJ forum, you get a free INFJ Relationship Guide, and in the section “Resources”, you can also find more free guidebooks for introverts. 🙂
Great article and insight, Marko! Thanks so much. Was President Obama an INFJ? He used to always use a teleprompter when he spoke, never leaving anything to chance……
Thanks so much Jan! I think he is an INFJ. The way how he speaks and expresses himself, I believe he is an INFJ. 🙂
Wow and whew .. I was thinking that I’m so odd that no one will ever understand me .!! I am one of those INFJs that really mean what I say and damned if I don’t always keep my promises and agreements when others don’t .. I’m so disappointed and pissed off.!
I was thinking that I’m too rigid and maybe I’m superficial because I am a nice quality beautiful things… One thing I know is that I am not Days can be criticized easily because others just don’t understand them.. The more I learn the more I love myself… Thank you so very much for the insight
Excuse my lack of editing.. I’m sure you got the message..
Lots of love from a true INFJ