Dear Innie Friend,
I have a confession. There have been many times in my life when I have wished that there was a cure for my introversion. I wanted to be able to surround myself with people all the time, without feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. I was seduced by the appeal of the extrovert’s high octane social life.
Now that I’m an introvert author and coach with several hundred heartfelt articles about introversion under my belt, you would think I’d get over my desire to jump on the extrovert bandwagon. But then December rolls around (as it does without fail every year), and my little innie heart longs to do so much more than my social batteries permit.
As it is, I’m already doing a lot more peopling than usual. I’ve been out and about shopping for presents and decorations. I’ve been entertaining a lot more, too. Even though I love solitude, I also love the way my house lights up with warmth and laughter when good friends come over. But there’s a problem.
The breaking point
There comes a point when all the extroverting takes its toll on me. Just when I think my introversion has been ‘cured’, and I can happily fill my days with constant doing and peopling, my body and mind put the breaks on.
I start to have trouble focusing. I get restless. The most peculiar thing is that I begin feeling lonely, even though I am socializing more than ever. Over the years I’ve come to realize that these are all the warning signs that I’m headed for introvert burnout. The only solution is sweet solitude.
The thing to remember
I know that I’m not the only introvert who feels this way at this time of year. It’s tough wanting to do and be more than your energy needs allow. The thing to remember is that your introversion comes with its own unique advantages. When you honor your introverted needs, you sharpen your gifts of focus, intuition, observation, and creativity. Not only that.
You become a sanctuary of peace and calm during a time of year when the chaos can be overwhelming to anyone, including our extroverted friends and loved ones.
So, please, do us all a favor and don’t try to cure your introversion. Take as many time-outs as you need to get through.
Peace & Love,
P.S. If you’re new to the blog, allow me to introduce myself. I’m Michaela Chung, author of The Irresistible Introvert and creator of this amazing innie community we have here. For several years, I’ve been building up a labyrinth of introvert resources that will take you on a magical journey toward more confidence, connection, and self-love. Start with this free Introvert Connection Guide.