How do you make an introvert fall in love? If you’re reading this article, you might already know that it’s not so straightforward.
Introverts are an anomaly to many because we don’t wear our emotions on our sleeve. We keep our greatest treasures hidden, secretly hoping that the right person will have the map to unlock the gates to our heart.
I have the map, dearest.
Today I’m sharing 8 ways to make an introvert fall in love. Follow these tips to a T and the gentle heart of an introvert will be yours to cherish. Handle it with care, because an introvert’s love and loyalty is not easy to win. But trust me, it is worth the effort!
8 Ways To Make an Introvert Fall in Love
Just because we’re quiet, doesn’t mean introverts have nothing to say. We may be word economists, but we put a lot of thought into what we do share. That’s why we really appreciate it when our partner listens on a deep level.
Feeling rushed in conversation can be really stressful for introverts, who need more time to think before we speak. Avoid interrupting us, and leave some empty spaces in the conversation so that we can process our thoughts. Try waiting a couple of seconds after we finish our sentence before chiming in.
If you or someone else interrupts your innie mid-sentence, be sure to invite him to finish his thought once the distraction has passed. Trust me when I say that he has been secretly hoping for such an invitation, and will be very impressed and grateful for the gesture.
If you really want to make an introvert fall in love, acknowledge what she says through paraphrasing, and affirming statements: “I really liked what you said about xyz, it shows that you’re perceptive.”
2. Don’t be too needy
Nothing makes an introvert’s anxiety levels rise like being needed too much. It’s important that we know that our partner will give us space to wander and ponder.
Needy people threaten an introvert’s independence. We worry that we will lose ourselves in the relationship. We’ll be totally engulfed by your needs, and we won’t have anything left for ourselves. For sensitive introverts, who are already susceptible to overwhelm, a needy partner can be beyond exhausting.
If you want to make an introvert fall in love, show her that you have your own hobbies, friends, and passions, and you don’t expect her to fill all the empty spaces of your existence.
3. Be patient
You might be tempted to speed things along with an introvert by getting pushy. Don’t. Introverts need more time to open up than extroverts. We want to feel like the person we are with will give us the space and time we need to process our feelings.
If you try to force intimacy (both physical and emotional) too quickly, you risk pushing your introvert away. Paradoxically, you can make an introvert fall in love much more quickly when you patiently allow him to open up in his own due time.
4. Be honest and real
Introverts tend to be highly perceptive. We can spot a fake from a mile away, so you might as well be honest from the get-go. Not only that.
Being around people who are open and real makes us feel like we can be ourselves. So, show your flaws, nerd out, get your goofy on – this is the secret to make an introvert fall in love.
5. Be curious
Every introvert has a burning desire to be understood. If you really want to ignite our love, get curious about who we are beyond the surface: our values, opinions, passions, desires.
We introverts have a secret world of ideas and dreams that we want to share with the right person. Gently invite us to open up by asking specific questions, and truly listening to the answers.
But be careful not to turn the conversation into an interrogation. Weave in your own stories and insights so that your innie doesn’t feel too put on the spot. At the same time, be on the lookout for subtle cues that an introvert likes you.
6. Slow down
Introverts tend to move at a slower pace than extroverts. We don’t like to stuff our day with endless activities. We need time to slow down and reflect on our experiences.
Try not to overschedule your introvert. Leave space in the day to do nothing, have a cuddle, take a nap, lie in the grass, and look at the clouds. Allow her to just be for a while. She will appreciate the slower pace, and it will bring out the best in her.
7. Be comfortable with silence
Conversation can be exhausting for introverts, even if we like you. When we go silent, it is not necessarily an invitation for you to fill the empty air space with chatter.
Sometimes, we don’t want to speak or listen. We just want to sit in silence and know that there is nothing awkward about it. Give us the space to do so by embracing the quiet moments, instead of anxiously trying to obliterate them with words.
8. Be loyal
Introverts value loyalty in friends and lovers. We are super selective about whom we allow into our inner circle, so we expect our companions to be loyal and trustworthy. We want to know that we can trust you with the precious gifts we give you.
Will you stick by us, keep our secrets, and cherish our friendship? If so, we will be fiercely loyal to you in return.
I hope you found my little roadmap to make an introvert fall in love helpful! Remember to use these tips with care. An introvert’s heart is not something to be toyed with, after all!
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